How To: Negotiate a Kinky Scene

One of the most often overlooked and neglected parts of kinky games is the negotiation. I’ve seen far too many bright-eyed, eager, and horny new folks enter the community and jump straight into intense play without stopping to negotiate first. It drives me...

New Kink Alert: Fetish Fitness!

I’m not talking about having a fetish for people in workout clothes when I say ‘Fetish Fitness’. While I often have guys tell me they love the look of my ass in yoga pants, and that they’d really enjoy getting to lick my panties after a...

Degrees of Consent in Kink

Every now and then, I get to introduce new folks in kink to the idea of consent. Pretty much everyone knows that to consent to something is to agree to it; you consent to having a stranger in your house when you pay for pest control, you consent to observing violence...

Lifestyle Dominatrix in the Real World

As you know, I am involved in the kinky fetish world. I’ve been going to kinky play parties for years, I travel to other cities to attend events, and I even go to fetish conventions for fun! I’m a kinky pervert from way back, and proud of it. I’ve...

New Year, New Program

Happy New Year! I’ve never offered a full program before now, but I thought I’d start 2014 off with a bang! That’s right. I’m putting together a program chock full of cock control, edging games, a smidge of humiliation, and just a touch of cum...

BDSM and Buddhism

I’ve been thinking lately about Buddhism and how it intersects with BDSM. On the surface, Buddhism doesn’t look anything at all like BDSM. Buddhism is all about meditating and being free from desire and doing Zen stuff, right? And BDSM is all chains and...