A topic that doesn’t get covered as much nowadays is the need for domestic discipline for men! You can turn to all sorts of tawdry sites spewing misogyny and bile about how women are naturally submissive (if that were so, would we need the constant reminders?) and need proper manly discipline to accept our place, but there’s very little out there catering to the needs of men who seek the relief from a too-heavy mantle of authority.

Domestic Discipline for Men

Mistress Harper Domestic Discipline and BDSM 800 601 7259Now, if you’re the sort of person of any gender expression that needs a break from being in charge, and finds relief and joy in submission, good for you. I’m not a fan of those who would try to shove anyone into that role if it doesn’t fit them though. True domestic discipline should be something everyone chooses for themself! If you need to have your wife or girlfriend tell you what to do, and how to do it, and then provide you with an appropriate punishment if you fail to perform to her standards, you should be able to seek that with no shame or fear of rejection.

Punishment or FUNishment

There’s no better proof that a little consensual domestic discipline isn’t for everyone than the fact that not everyone enjoys a nice erotic spanking or domination fantasy. It’s fine if you’re not bent that way, but some of us like to see a pretty bottom turn pink and then red, while the hapless owner of said bottom sobs out their apologies. Think of it in terms of the sorts of things all people get up to for fun, if that helps you to understand spanking games. Some people get in perfectly functional airplanes and then jump out of them wearing only a bit of silk to slow their fall back down to the ground. People box, and race cars at unwise speeds, and go to haunted houses to have the spit scared out of them, too. Humans are weird, and we get our jollies in all sorts of ways.

Types of Discipline

Never fear if a little corporal punishment isn’t to your taste, you can still experience discipline without needing to bare your bottom to the humiliation of a spanking. Embrace the endless creativity of humankind, and open your mind to the wonderful world of consensual humiliation and domestic discipline. For the extroverted submissive that loves to be the star of the show, try kneeling in a corner, silently, while everyone ignores you. Masturbation addicts can find intense discipline through the application of a chastity device, while those who need some deeper chastisement will find over-stimulation and post orgasm torture fits the bill nicely. If you’ve changed your mind and now want to try an erotic spanking, choose your punishment: bare hands, silicone slapper, or wooden paddle? They all are delightful, in different ways.

Can You Be Good For Mistress?

The point of a spanking punishment, or domestic discipline, is that the person receiving it needs it on some level. You want to be good, to be obedient, to get it ‘right’, and yet you’re human. You’re frail, and you make mistakes, and sometimes you fuck up. Good discipline helps in that it can take your mistake or fuck-up and wipe it away. All done, all gone, you took your punishment for Mistress like a good submissive, and now all is forgiven again. If you can’t be good all the time, you can at least atone for your mistakes by accepting your discipline with a minimum of whining.

Domestic Discipline Lifestyle

Domestic discipline doesn’t have to be a part of your lifestyle, but for a lot of people it can be incorporated as part of a FLR, or Female Led Relationship, or other power exchange relationship. As with all parts of your shared life with your partner(s), it’s important to negotiate all the aspects of discipline and power exchange, and do regular check-ins to make sure everyone is still having fun and getting what they need from the interactions. If you’d like to introduce your previously vanilla partners to the party, and convince your wife to dominate you, an open and frank discussion of what it is and isn’t will be necessary. There are a lot of misconceptions around what domestic discipline really is, and you’ll likely need to dispel a few myths. If you need help with this conversation, you can give me a call and we can work together to hone a few scenarios for introducing your wife or girlfriend to your need to be spanked when you’re naughty.

Seeking Discipline?

If you’re in need of discipline, in any of the many forms it can take, I can help you! Reach out to me to arrange your punishment (or FUNishment) today. In all honesty, I do understand the desire to submit, to not be in charge of anything, and to be allowed the cathartic release that a solid discipline scenario can bring to you. Just like riding a roller coaster, the endorphin rush of submission can feel so very good. Consider me a roller coaster that you can ask for exactly what you want and need, and have it delivered to you with grace, understanding, and just a little bit of my own personal sadistic pleasure.

Your Discipline Mistress, Harper

Mistress Harper www.fetishphonesexblog.com 800 356 6169