One of, if not THE most beneficial things you can do to increase your pleasure and your partner’s pleasure in bed is to learn how to control your orgasmic reactions. Don’t worry, I’m going to explain exactly what all that means, and even walk you through some simple things you can do to start to learn how to take control over your seemingly uncontrollable sexual energies. Orgasm control is all about finding the difference between a simple ejaculation and a true orgasm, and then using your formidable mind to guide, control, and even multiply those orgasms. You read that right, I said multiply your orgasms.
Orgasm Control
Orgasm control requires that you cultivate the ability to identify an orgasm vs an ejaculation. Ejaculation is a physiological response your body often has to sexual stimulation, that results in muscular contractions of the pelvic floor muscles to discharge seminal fluid. Orgasm is an energetic release of sexual energies. You’ll note that those are two very different things! Learning to discern the difference between them is very important if you want to truly take control over your orgasmic pleasure.
The Value of Ruined Orgasms
Nowhere is it more obvious that there is a clear difference between orgasm and ejaculation than through the process of a ruined orgasm. Basically, for a ruined orgasm, right at the moment of ejaculation, you deliberately act to lessen or prevent the pleasure of orgasm. You can do this by limiting the pleasurable stimulation, or by replacing that pleasurable touch with something more harsh and unpleasant. Of course, the key to using a ruined orgasm to further your orgasm control is to pay very close attention to the way your body feels as you ruin the orgasm.
Multiple Orgasms?!
You can learn to have multiple orgasms when you decouple orgasm from ejaculation. An easy way to prove to you that you can cum repeatedly is to ruin your orgasm, but keep stroking afterward! Properly ruined, you won’t go soft afterward, so you can continue to masturbate yourself to a second, full, orgasm. Even a ruined orgasm still has a little of the pleasure and release of a full orgasm, so you can have a lesser release followed by the full orgasm. Just, keep stroking yourself through to your second (or third!) orgasm. Women find multiple orgasm easier to achieve than men because we don’t have orgasm tied so strongly to a physiological release like ejaculation.
Better Sex Through Cock Control
Both partnered and solo sex can be made better if you use the techniques of both cock control and orgasm control. Imagine that you could learn to orgasm at will, any time you wanted, for as long and often as you wanted, all without losing your erection or interest in sexual activities. Imagine how aroused you could be, and satisfied, all at the same time. Picture showing your partner that you really intensely get off on their body, and still want more with them. Got all that in your mind? Good. That’s what orgasm control can give you. Far better sex for yourself (endless orgasms!) and better sex with your partner, too.
Ready To Learn More?
I offer lessons in orgasm control by phone, text, and email. I can teach you to cum on command, to cum repeatedly, and to stave off the dreaded limp dick no matter what provocation you’ve endured. All you have to do is reach out and ask me to help you experience true cock control and orgasm control training. Easy, simple, and fun for everyone! When you’re ready, drop me an email at harper@enchantrixempire.com and ask for what you need. (Especially if you need some ruined orgasm erotica…)
ty as this post makes me crave but you have instructed me to stay chaste but you brought an ache at the thought
there’s nothing wrong with some healthy craving! Ache, and rock your hips, and remain nicely chaste for me anyway.
This is a very interesting and enlightening article! I love it very much!
It is absolutely true! Another true benefit of a ruined orgasm! Thank you, I enjoyed it!
Honestly, people are really missing out when they discount the Ruined Orgasm as nothing more than a punishment. It’s so versatile!
Denial and/or prolonged edging is a powerful tool for orgasm control. Even if it’s just in one edging session, like it was for me yesterday after less than a week of denial.
Of course, it helps to be a 3-1/2″ beta cuckold…I need little persuasion to submit.
You submit so beautifully, Thomas! Like you were made for it. And edging with denial interspersed really does break a man’s will, doesn’t it? mmm
Yes, Mistress Harper, it truly does. And when the cuck is ridiculed during orgasm and made to slurp up his pathetic little puddle, it makes for very conflicted feelings yet an even stronger grip on his weak spine.