One of the most underrated and misunderstood fetishes of all time is the fetish for being ignored. Have you heard of it? It can seem paradoxical, to both ask for a Mistress’ attention, and then request that she utterly forget about you, and ignore your very existence. Why do some people crave the peace of being simply in the same space as their Mistress, but not directly interacting with them? What is the Ignore Fetish?
You have definitely already experienced the Ignore Fetish
If you’re a fan of erotic humiliation, you’ve probably played with being ignored a little bit. Trying to convince a woman that you would be a good lover, only to have her glance at your pathetic little dick, laugh a little, and then utterly ignore you in favor of the well-endowed and sexually potent man beside her? Didn’t the sting and burn of her disregard make your cock twitch? Don’t you wish you could be just forgotten about as you sit in the corner and watch as your wife or girlfriend cuckolds you with a real man? That’s all part of the Ignore Fetish!
What is the Ignore Fetish really about?
The Ignore Fetish is one of the oldest fetishes of them all, and like most erotic humiliation fetishes can be mixed and matched with other sexual scenarios very well. To be invisible as a sexual partner, overlooked for dating or partnership, and yet to find that still arousing and gratifying is a deeply human experience. While normally we’d use ‘fetish’ as a clinical term to mean a paraphilia that is required to reach sexual gratification, in this case we’re using fetish to mean ‘something other than vanilla sex’. The fetish for being overlooked or ignored is deeply embedded into many other fetish situations, from cuckold scenarios to humiliation games, objectification and dehumanization or forniphilia, and as a type of monetary domination, too.
For some people, the idea of simply spending time in the same space as their Mistress is erotic enough. In face-to-face BDSM scenarios, it’s fairly common for a dominant to put a submissive into a position or restraint, and then seemingly ignore them while they enjoy the fruits of their predicament. A person may enjoy being blindfolded and gagged, restrained, and then told to hump a fleshlight for a while as their Mistress does her nails. Perhaps the idea of being transformed into a footstool and made use of is appealing? You don’t expect your Mistress to talk to her footrest or side table, do you? Quietly (or not so quietly) enjoying what you’re doing with no further input needed can be intensely erotic.
How would this all work in a phone or text session?
If you want to experience the simple pleasure of being forgotten about, you can always call and ask for exactly that. I may choose to refresh my manicure, work on a painting, or send some tweets. Maybe I’ll work on a blog post while you’re edging over and over again, a little accompaniment to my writing. You’ll get to listen to the ambient sounds as I go about my day, and if you need a check in from time to time, we can arrange that, too. A little “you still having fun over there in the corner?” as I refill my water or slice some fruit for a snack, just to acknowledge that I know you exist. But while I know you exist, you’re not at the center of my attention right now. You can relax, enjoying the feeling of being owned or overseen by your Mistress, but without the stage shyness of being put on display.
Think of it like a party: some people yearn to be at the center of the room, seen and interacted with by everyone. Some people want to linger by the walls and simply watch for a while. Ignore Fetish phone sex can give you the feeling of being present without having to be the central performer. You’re just there, perhaps wanking, and not at the center of my focus and attention. Isn’t that liberating?
The most recent episode of Whore School was on the Ignore Fetish
Go listen to my Adult Sex Education Podcast and learn some stuff! I covered the Ignore Fetish on September 4, 2022, and you can stream or download to listen. Get some more ideas about how this fascinating fetish can be used to enhance your erotic games.
September, by the way, is Pass the Penis month, and while tossing you around a group of Mistresses is amusing enough, can you imagine if we played Pass the Loser? Mistress after Mistress simply ignoring you as you are passed around and around, in a dizzying display of exactly how pathetic you really are. Or try a Multiple Mistress Ignore Session; we’ll ignore you, and chat amongst ourselves. Perhaps we’ll skewer your shortcomings and failings and gossip about you, or maybe we’ll share some fantastic recipes and tips for turning men into weak willed losers.
I loved the whore school episode on the ignore fetish, because as per usual you made me think about it from a perspective I had either forgotten or not at all thought of. Also they are very enjoyable for Us, kink wise. You get to spend time with us, we get to get paid to ignore you while in our presence. Win/win. 🔥
There’s so much going on with the Ignore Fetish! I love the complexity of something so seemingly simple.
I am happy to serve you in any way that please you and give you pleasure.
If I am giving you pleasure and proving myself, then I am not being ignored by you Mistress.
This reminds me of one of my favorite fantasies I’ve had for a while.
Imagine a party. High class or casual, what ever suits your taste. People milling about, talking, drinking, flirting, eating. The usual low key party mingling.
But this party has a special perverse kinks to it. Hanging from the ceilings in sex swing harnesses are beautiful, naked people. Bound and helpless and ball gagged. Their arms and legs are suspended above them. Wrist and ankles touching. Their faces positioned right over their presentation of their naked shaved crotches. A swing of leather supporting their curled up backs. Bent double and exposed for all to see.
Before being put on display, each of these naked twinks and lovely naked girls drank a potent combination of mecca root, horny goat weed and other herbs that have them helplessly aroused and lustful. And now they are hanging in sex swings naked and being ignored by the clothed party guest for the most part. Now and then a guest will pass by and give a sideways glance of appreciation and a smirk. The hard cocks and glistening pussies betraying the ignored pets desperation.
But there are also attendants. Positioned in the party are caretakers in red tuxedos and mirrored masks. If the arousal of a pet seems to be easing, the caretaker noticed and approaches. The pets try to struggle and avoid what is to come but there is no where to go. The caretakers have riding crops. One end a small dildo head and the other a feather. They gently tease the pets presented sex. The mirrored mask show no connection or emotion of the caretakers. Instead, the pets see their own desperate needing faces reflected back at them.Teasing the cocks and holes until the pet is moaning and whining. The dicks throbbing and coated with pre-cum. Glistening and trembling. The girls pussies open and dew drops of slick desire on display as they squirm. But the caretakers are experts at applying just enough stimulation. To maximize the pets need but not to satisfy in any way. The pets can be heard begging and cooing and moaning in helpless arousal. Some of them cry out in a fit of lust fired frustrated despair. A display of surrender there is no coming back from. Much to the entertainment of the party guests.
Imagine on of the guest is Ms Harper. She strolls up to stand before a pet and just stare., sipping her drink and taking in the pets naked body and shame. Letting the weight of the situation fall completely on them in humiliating realization. The pet will squirm and plead and try to either arch away to avoid further teasing, or arch forward for even a small bit of touch. With one last glance, her eyes roaming top to bottom and back again, she turns and walks away. A smirk on her face as she hears the pet wail in final surrender. Harper just turned that pet into a total pleasure slut. Once they are let free, they will forever be willing t do anything to please. For pleasure. Anything to touch and be touched To cum and make others cum. Especially eager to please Ms Harper.
Just for the record I do realize the fantasy I wrote is not an ignore fetish. It may nuzzle up to it but the playthings are getting attention and very aware of being exposed and looked at. In some ways the opposite of the ignore fetish. But I as reminded of it and wanted to share.
Very interesting post Mistress Harper. I love the ignore fetish. Though i like it where the phone is left in another room and i don’t hear anything for 2-3 hours until the 2 minute warning goes off on my call. It is a win-win for everyone involved. I get ignored and The Mistress gets to do whatever she wants while getting paid.
That sounds so relaxing… lol