I asked the folks over on our social network, the Enchantrix Empire, to give me prompts to write around, and while I got some really good answers, I was also asked about “what a mistress thinks and feels when she knows she has total control?” What a great question, right? They went on to say: “I have an idea of my emotions and thoughts, but clueless into a dommes. Whether its the power trip or what her emotions and feelings are when she takes control. from the planning to enacting to after the fun is over. Is there a letdown or a certain type of high?” So, let’s explore this and get downright philosophical!
 

What Does A Mistress Get From All This?

 
You know what a submissive gets from the BDSM interaction, and especially from calling a professional phone sex femdom like myself. You get release, an orgasm (or the fun of being denied), and you get to feel safe, secure, seen, and treasured. Yes, even in the ‘Mean Mistress‘ sessions, you’re still treasured, even as I call you a pathetic worm and tell you to lick the sole of my shoe. Most people understand that the dominant in the D/s relationship or interaction gets sexual fulfillment, a power rush, and the ineffable feeling of authority and control. But there’s even more that we, and I, get from all ‘this’.
 

Intangible Benefits: Trust

 
Would it shock you overly much to learn that I get a huge rush from being trusted? I hope not, I’ve spoken about this before, but maybe it is a surprise to you. The inverse of a submissives desire to trust someone with their deepest fantasies and needs is a dominant’s desire to be trusted. If you can find it in yourself to trust that I’ll take care of you, give you what you need, and not cause undue harm to you, why, that’s the biggest fucking compliment it’s possible for me to receive! I love being trusted like that. Especially because some people find it counterintuitive to trust a phone sex femdom like myself. So if you trust me, it’s actually a really big deal to me!
 

Say It With Me: Antici-

 
The process of planning for a longer scene, or a more intensive or in-depth scenario can also be a lot of fun for your domme. The anticipation that comes from knowing how much you’re going to enjoy whatever we’re doing together allows me to stretch out the happy feelings. There’s the ‘before’ and then the ‘during’ and of course, ‘after’ as well. I love contemplating what your reaction will be, and then watching my plan come to fruition gives a lovely rush of satisfaction, too. And, all that anticipation can lead to the satisfaction of the actual scene, which, who doesn’t love a little D/s roleplay?
 

-Pation Leads to Good Things

 
During the scenario or scene, I get a great deal of deep satisfaction from doing something really really well. I have a thing about being competent, and also seeing others being competent. It’s a competency kink taken to a pretty deep level, I guess. Being able to do whatever it is that you need, and do it to the limit of my skill, just satisfies me on a deep level. Now, I’m not saying that during your session with me I’m gonna be busily masturbating, because I won’t be. See, I get selfish when I’m wanking, and that does not facilitate me doing the very best job I possibly can! If I’m focused on what I’m doing to myself, I’m, by definition, not focused on what I’m doing to you! And that just won’t do! I don’t kink on getting my own rocks off, I want to make you into a drooling puddle of helpless submissive. The only way to do that, is to pay very close attention and do my job to the utmost. That’s what satisfies me.
 

To Infinity And Beyond!

 
After that scenario, when you’ve had your fun and we’ve both calmed down a bit, sure I’ll sometimes take myself in hand and finish myself off. And, to go back to that original question about whether there’s a letdown or a type of high… sure can be! I find it happens more often in in-person scenarios than sessions by phone or internet. I suspect there’s a level of emotional distance that I can maintain when doing my phone sex femdom thing, rather than the energy expended on all levels in a face to face scene. In addition to the sheer physicality of what I’m doing, there’s the emotional connection, which can be more intense face to face. So sometimes, yes, I have a little top drop after a scene (it’s like sub-drop, only for tops!)
 

Want Your Own Session With A Phone Sex Femdom?

 
You’re in luck! I happen to be a very professional phone sex femdom and can absolutely enjoy on all sorts of levels the games that two (or more) consenting adults get up to when the mood strikes. No matter what it is that you’d like to explore, I can bend my mind to create something fun for both of us. I hope you can see that I do get a LOT out of the sessions and scenarios that I help people with. I love being trusted, showing off my skills and competence, and, of course, I absolutely get a kick out of having power, control, and authority over you. Even if it’s just ten mintues at a time.
 

Your Femdom Phone Sex Mistress, Harper

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