If you’re a sexual person on the internet, you’ve probably run across the term ‘Tantra’ a time or two.
For a lot of us oversexed Westerners, Tantra looks like a real good time for all! Tons of sex, getting really into an altered state of consciousness through any means necessary, and multiple hours long orgasms? What’s not to like?! The thing to be careful about when you’re trying to get started in a Tantric practice is that a lot of what’s billed as super erotic Tantra isn’t authentic actual Tantra. Before you throw up your hands in despair, let me reassure you that authentic Tantra is a lot of fun, and, yes, there’s a lot of erotic stuff in the real deal. (Just probably not as many orgasms as you were hoping for…)
What is Tantra, anyway?
Tantra is a system of practices designed to help an individual become enlightened. It has roots going back ~7,000 years, in Northern India. Tantra’s origins as a coherent system of practice can be traced to Hinduism, and then later, in Tibetan Buddhism, or Vajrayana. Tantra includes practices such as meditation, the chanting of mantras, ritual sacrifice, and spiritual rituals. Erotic Tantra is a subsection of Tantra, and unlike other aesthetic traditions in both Hinduism and Buddhism, it embraces physicality and the body. Where some orthodox traditions eschew the body as ‘dirty’ or unclean, Tantra embraces the needs of the flesh and seeks to use those needs and drives to help the individual become enlightened.
Where do modern practitioners of Tantra go wrong?
If you decide to take up the practice of Tantra in hopes of getting a really good orgasm, learning how to last longer in bed, or just for kicks to see if you can manage to cum on your own face, you’re going to be shortchanging yourself a whole lot. Tantra is a complete system aimed at helping an individual live a happy and healthy life. It can encompass all of your daily life, from washing dishes to cleaning the floor, and, yes, erotic things you enjoy, too. The beauty of erotic Tantra is that it can bring that erotic energy to literally everything you do throughout the day. The general awareness of yourself as a mind embodied in flesh, feeling, living, breathing, and finding pleasure in every moment, THAT is the blessing that Tantra can give you. A five hour long masturbation session isn’t the end goal of Tantra; being whole and alive in every moment is the end goal. Tantra isn’t just for fucking or sex, and it isn’t just a toy to play with when you’re bored.
If you’d like to learn more about Tantra, and how it can help you:
I’m always up for chatting about Tantra, and meditation. You can call me for an erotic Tantra guided meditation/masturbation session, or just ask me to help you get a good breathing pattern for stress reduction and erotic energy. We can work on your mantra pronunciations, or even some advanced erotic Tantra practices: how do you feel about holding an erection by will alone for an hour or two, until the energy in your body rises and you experience a spiritual awakening and erotic ecstasy? Because I feel pretty good about it…
So um.. Harper? Does this mean I can’t stick a straw into my penis? Hey wait, I don’t have a penis!!!!!! Never mind! No but seriously, why do ‘mericans have to bastardize everything? I have a male friend who studies daoism and martial arts, and who is Korean, and he was telling me he laughed when he heard what Americans thought tantra is. It has nothing to do with having 50 orgasms. There are spiritual practices that are used to raise the level of mind, and having everything to do with enlightenment. Not that having multiple orgasms is a bad thing, but you’d be friggin exhausted!
Misstress Brighten you can have a penis added. The technology is here for the Addadicktamy then if you stick the straw in that is called Sounding. Why people sound i haven’t a clue.
The straw is a reference to an actual Tantric practice where a person with a penis puts a straw into the tip of their cock, blows into it, and then uses willpower and excellent muscular control to pull their ejaculate back up inside their body. The belief was that semen is powerful, so, spilling it or getting it outside of yourself was giving away your power and strength. That if a person ejaculated inside another person, they were passing all their power along to the vessel, so it was better to both not ejaculate, and to pull any pre-ejaculate or ejaculate back into oneself.
And the joke there is that I was gonna make the very next guy who called with a tantricish fantasy do that thing with a straw. LOL!
America bastardizing things from other cultures so badly that they miss the entire point is overflowing with irony and ridiculousness. The way we celebrate St Patrick’s day is an exclusively American phenomenon. The Irish either role thier eyes,or resent the hell of the misrepresentation. That and tantra are just 2 examples.
Their is a hilarious movie titled
“A Fish Called Wanda” featuring a great performance from everyone in tbe cast. Kevin Kline’s character, Otto, is a satirical personification of this team troupe. John Cleese’s character called him on it and gets hung out a window for his trouble.
You’re tantric talk reminded me if the moment when the brilliant beautiful Jamie Lee Curtis catches Otto doing what he thinks is meditation.
” I’m meditating. It’s what Buddhist monks do just before they go into battle. “
am currently in a no masturbating phase of my life . i want to come with some one and not masturbate & am of the belief that a lot of masturbating shrinks the penis. When i get back to sexually pleasuring my self i will be hitting up Dollar Tree for some very long straws.In the meantime my hope & desire is to find opportunities to pleasure woman orally.
It was the sex industry that put emphasis on the sex component in tantra.Why? For money.Then they are queerly baffled at where this bias comes from.