For the longest time I have loudly advocated against the weird anti-sex shame based purity culture ‘thing’ going on in the west. Now, in light of the state of the entire world it may seem silly and frivolous to still be banging this drum, but tell me honestly that we wouldn’t all be so much better off if we just stopped, got naked, and cuddled our way to a happy mental health status! In order to advance my “fuck John Calvin and the Puritans” campaign, as well as my “just be the pervert your are inside” agenda, I’m going to teach you all about how to give good body worship to your partner(s) as well as yourself!
 

Body Worship

 
Now, if you tune in for the live adult sex education podcast Whore School on Sunday January 11, 2026 at 11 pm Eastern, you will get to hear me, live on the air, strongly advocate for Body Worship and Self Love, Literally. I’m gonna introduce you to an advanced type of spiritual hedonism, and tell you all about why it’s good for you to first up rest and recharge yourself, and second to act with reverance and worship towards yourself and others. You’d think this was obvious and yet I think some folks are going to be flabbergasted over this. Body worship, in the context I plan to speak about for the podcast, can be a way to reclaim your self worth and esteem in your own eyes, and to affirm the same in your loved ones.
 

Sexy Cuddles!

 
Even if you can’t quite bring yourself to touch your body or your lover’s body with true spiritual worship, you can at least indulge in gentle touching and soft cuddles. Sex doesn’t have to be just a rather penetration oriented penis in vagina three thrusts and you’re all done thing. In fact, yikes, I hope that’s not how you’re usually having sex! There is so much MORE to sex than just friction until you ejaculate. Sex beyond penetration is a theme I’ve also hit pretty solidly in the past, and it’s worth a re-visit while we’re talking about body worship. This is not ‘just’ foreplay! This is an end in itself!
 

How To Give Good Body Worship

 
Three steps, laid out clearly, so you can learn to give good body worship: step one is to Slow The Fuck Down. I mean it! No rushing. No skipping parts. Slow all the way down. Step two is Pay Attention. Now this one may be more difficult for you, if you’re on social media a lot, or have a neurodivergence that shortens your attention span, paying attention can be really hard to do. But it’s worth the goddamn effort, if you want to give really good body worship. Try limiting your senses by using a blindfold during your worship session. Touch, through your hands and lips and mouth, the slide of your skin against theirs, and the sounds they make, the scent of their arousal, all become much easier to focus on if you limit your ability to look around and get distracted.

Step three for how to give good body worship is Enjoy Yourself. If it feels good, do that again. If you’re enjoying what you’re doing, do it more! Take your time to go back to things that felt good and revisit them. You have all the time in the world, you are focused in, and you can just repeat the good parts as many times as you want to. Revel in how much fun you’re having. Revel in how much fun your partner is having, too!
 

Ready To Worship?

 
I started this essay off bemoaning the state of the world. If we all took the time to slow down, pay attention, and enjoy ourselves, the world would be so much better. No rushing, no skipping the good bits and definitely no shorting ourselves on pleasure. You deserve good things, and so do your lovers. So does everyone else, honestly. Body worship is my favorite way to have a lover or submissive show me their devotion, care, and focus on me, my pleasure, and my well being. Come worship at my altar of love and pleasure!
 

Your Body Worship Goddess, Harper