Many of the folks who have been socialized as male experience a lot of anxiety around their sexual stamina and endurance. Questions about whether or not they can last long enough to please their partner collide with expectations around what it means to be a Man, and that’s a lovely toxic stew tailor made to produce anxious and nervous men with problems in the bedroom. Whether you’re a prejac or gooner, stamina and endurance are on your mind, for roughly the same reasons. I got into this for the September 7, 2025 live Whore School podcast episode.
Prejac or Gooner on Whore School
Listen to the entire hour long live event on demand on your favorite podcast hosting site, or just hit the Play button on the player here!
Listen to “WS 463 Prejac or Gooner? Men’s Sexual Stamina and Endurance Revealed” on Spreaker.
Remember that Whore School is live, adult, sex education, with a focus on no shame, fear, or guilt. It is distressingly common for grown adults to discover that the ‘sex education’ they’ve recieved over the years was faulty at best and downright wrong at worst. If the people in your life who were charged with teaching you about sex, sexuality, gender, and gender expression dropped the ball, that sucks, but it’s not your fault. You’re here now, rectifying the lack of knowledge and education you were deprived of when younger. Go you!
Prejac, or Premature Ejaculation
I make the point quite frequently that if anything in your life is causing you distress, or getting in the way of you living a happy, healthy life, it’s a problem and you deserver to be able to find solutions to that problem. If cumming too quickly is a problem for you, then it’s a problem! There are some people who have turned the notion of being a prejac, and suffering from premature ejaculation, into an erotic humiliation fetish. For those folks, it’s obviously not a problem! If you do struggle with premature ejaculation, there are a few solutions, from medication that can help you last longer, physical barriers that may reduce stimulation (try a condom), and mental discipline to stave off the dreaded too-early eruption.
Gooner, or Masturbation Addict
One more time, if it’s not a problem, it’s not a fucking problem! But, some people do cross the line between really enjoying a nice gooner edge session and a psychological addiction to masturbation. Let me be abundantly clear: masturbation addiction is rare, in the clinical form. If and only if you are literally incapable of stopping yourself from pulling your pud in clearly inappropriate locations and times, then and only then might a clinician declare you addicted to masturbation. The rest of the time? You’re just nasty. And really enjoy wanking. Gooners are people who take their mental discipline to stop themselves from orgasming to the next level, and make a prejac look like a sexual amature.
Stamina and Endurance
No matter where you fall on the prejac to gooner spectrum, your sexual stamina and endurance in bed is perfectly fine! The only time it’s a problem is if your sexual performance is causing you problems living your life. If you can’t be happy, healthy, and in a stable, emotionally fulfilling and supportive relationship because of how long you can maintain an erection, well ok, then you have a problem and we can address that. Otherwise? Gentlemen, Ladies, Theydies, and None-bies, you have fingers and a tongue and a bank account with which to purchase marital aids. If you want to please your partner, start with a conversation with them about what they want and need in the bedroom, and then apply some creative problem solving together to get there.
Listen to Whore School
I give plenty of tips in the episode for how to deal with either premature ejaculation or folks who’d like to learn to be a gooner. You can also check out Stamina Building Exercises if you’d like to work on mastering your own internal orgasm control. Or, feel free to give me a call and ask for a one on one lesson.
Your Orgasm Control Mistress, Harper
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