I have tips for helping you get ready for Chastity! Don’t worry, these are mostly oriented around safety, comfort, and important details. If you’re ready to explore chastity for real, keep reading for all my tips on preparing for chastity, or listen to my podcast episode about Chastity for Locktober! Hop back and read about Chastity Misconceptions, too, just to make sure we’re all on the same page about your expectations for chastity!

Preparing for Chastity

Let’s get you ready for real, proper chastity. First up, if you’re not sure this is for you, the cheap cages are acceptable for short term use; you don’t have to break the bank with one of the expensive cages right off the bat. Note I only said ‘acceptable’! Most of the inexpensive devices are not up to my standard for things to attach to your body, but if we’re only using it for a couple hours one weekend, as long as we’re paying attention and take it off as soon as something starts to feel funny, it’ll be ok. If you want to wear your cage for longer than a few hours, or if you discover you really love chastity and want to try for extended time locked up, you’ll want to invest in a good device. Many of the cheaper cages available online are made from less than ideal materials. You can even find 3D printed cages! Most resins and plastics are a less than ideal material for sex toys to be made from, due to possible toxic chemicals off-gassing or otherwise leaching. In general, metal is the way to go, but that said, for sissy chastity check out some of the molded plastic cages that look like pussies!

Inspect Your Cage

Always inspect your cage before you put it on for any signs of damage. Chrome or nickle plating can chip or flake off; at the first sign of the shiny coating coming off, stop using that toy. The edges of the plating can be sharp, and the metal underneath can rust. You do not want tetanus from a rusty cut on your dick and balls. Likewise, any snags, mold marks (on plastic or resin cages), or sharp bits mean you shouldn’t put that on your dick.

Prep Your Body

Before you put on your chastity device, at minimum you’ll want to trim your hair downstairs. Catching your pubic hair in the lock sucks a lot. You can shave, but I’d actually suggest for new chastity exploration that you leave a quarter inch or so. Dealing with razor burn, ingrown hairs, and the lovely feel of freshly shaven skin against metal as a first time chastity pet can be a layer of difficulty you don’t want.

Lube Up

I bet you weren’t expecting to need lube for chastity, were you? Grab yourself an oil or silicone based lube, and put a bit on your skin where the main ring will sit. This will let the ring slide on easier, and, as you walk around during the day, help prevent the ring from sticking in an uncomfortable way. You’ve had your balls stick to the inside of your thigh? Like that only worse. If you’re using a plastic or resin cage, try coconut oil, as it’s less likely to interact with the material your cage is made from, while still helping increase your comfort with the cage.

Fit Matters

The way your cage fits your body matters a whole lot. I’m a fan of custom cages made to fit you exactly, and those less expensive cages online are very much not custom. Make sure to measure for your ring size carefully; too loose and your cage will fall off (and slide down your pants leg at work, which would be hilarious but also really embarrassing), and too tight and you’ll really regret your life choices. If at any point your cage is loose enough that you can become erect in it, or if any part of your penis can fit through any of the vent holes, that cage is extremely dangerous and you should not use it. Poking bits of yourself through a chastity cage is a great way to get a trip to the nice people with the bolt cutters at the hospital.

Have a Plan

While an endurance trial can be fun, you’re more likely to enjoy your chastity game if you plan it out first. You can always ask me, or your Mistress of choice, to help you schedule out a training and endurance building regimen so that you can build up to the time in chastity that you want to experience. This is the sort of game that’s more fun with a partner, after all. Having an experienced chastity Mistress to help you along can be the key to a good time playing with chastity. At the very least, set yourself up with an idea for how long each day you’ll be in chastity, and what sorts of milestones and rewards you’d enjoy as you tick off each day on the calendar. If you’d like to become a chastity slave, that’s possible, just be smart about it!

Let’s Explore Chastity

I love playing chastity games, and I hope I’ve given you enough solid information to help you navigate your new journey through advanced cock control games. I don’t want to scare you or put you off, but there are a few safety concerns, and of course, ways to make your chastity way more fun. Use my tips to enhance your Loctober, and don’t forget to reach out if you need a personalized plan with the guidance and assistance of a chastity Mistress!

Your Chastity Mistress, Harper