I’ve had an upswing in folks asking me about Chastity, and with Locktober coming up, it seems important to share some tips with you so that you can enter your chastity journey with the ease and understanding that you’ll need to have a good time. A lot of people have some misconceptions about chastity, and let the preconceived notions stop them from enjoying all that some facilitated cock control can offer. Of those that do decide to play with some orgasm denial, a substantial number go about their exploration in less than ideal ways, making some basic mistakes that lower their enjoyment of this game. So, keep reading, and I’ll get you all set up with tips for preparing for chastity and avoiding common chastity misconceptions.
What is Chastity Anyway?
It’s better if you think of chastity as a sort of a cock control game. In this case, it’s a power exchange game or fantasy that features your cock and orgasms. You hand your control over your dick, erections and all, to your trusted partner, and let them decide if and when you get to masturbate, edge, or orgasm. Some chastity games involve a chastity device or cage made of metal or stiff plastic, and some don’t! (There’s one of the misconceptions that people often have about these games.) You can play chastity games using just your mind; mental chastity can be very rewarding, and really tricky, because sometimes erections just happen! You can use soft restriction to control your cock, like panties, control girdles, and even a jock strap. The tool you use to enforce chastity varies depending on your comfort, preference, and even budget.
Chastity Misconceptions
Let’s start looking at some of the more common misconceptions about chastity, and how those ideas can prevent you from playing this game with your partner! For starters, chastity is not a ‘lock it and leave it’ sort of a game. You can’t just slap on any ol’ chastity cage and call it good, and you really shouldn’t go for extreme lengths of time locked if you’ve never worn a cage before. If you’d like to set yourself up for a bad time and ensure that you’ll fail miserably, go ahead and snag a thirty dollar plastic cage off your online retailer of choice, slap that bad boy on, lock it, and go for a whole month! Then you can ask me to help you unlearn all the negative associations you just gave yourself, and get you back on track with a better chastity regimen.
Time In Chastity
The length of time you spend in chastity can vary widely. If you read online erotica, you’ve found tales of pathetic and weak men locked in chastity for years on end, withering away, subservient and broken spirits that will agree to any debasement or humiliating task. Those can be hot stories and fantasies, but reality is often quite different. You might get off on the idea of being tricked into chastity, locked up and made to suck dick, eat pussy and ass, and otherwise turned into a chastity slave and abused, but that’s not likely to be your week one experience. If you want to play with extreme chastity, you have to work up to that. Like any game, exercise, or technique, you have to learn proper methods and then practice them. You have to build up to endurance games like extended chastity.
Chastity Scenarios for Beginners
Imagine that your Mistress has told you to strip for her. Picture yourself, nude, while she’s watching you. Feel her eyes on you, evaluating and considering her plans. That wicked smile, almost a smirk, as she tells you she’s going to lock a cage on you, and you’re going to be put on display in front of all her friends. Feel the cool metal, the weight of it hanging from your cock and balls, the slight click of the lock. Picture a collar, and leash, and having to walk behind her into a room full of people. All those eyes on your naked body, seeing your cock locked up tight for your Mistress. Imagine that you’re not allowed to speak, or do anything other than follow her. Think about what they’ll be saying about you, about how obedient and good you are, how you look all locked up in chastity for your Mistress. Imagine that after a couple hours, she leads you back out again. She unlocks you, releases you from the cage. Picture what happens next.
Ready for Chastity?
I love to play chastity games, and I hope that now you know why some chastity games might be fun for you to explore. Remember: chastity doesn’t have to be weeks or month on end. Chastity is just cock control with a fun accessory. Good toys make your games more fun, and a good Mistress to help guide you can make the difference between wanking alone and having a life changing experience.
Your Chastity Mistress, Harper
I really like your approach, Mistress. Harper. Sometimes less can be more and vice versa. The important thing is the inner attitude and attunement. I’d like to try it this year, see how it works out and if my Mistress/Wife wants to do it with me, or what rules we set. She is afraid to leave me locked up for long, due to blood vessel patency. I tell her that I feel safe, nothing hurts anywhere, but she is still concerned for my safety. So maybe we can arrange to lock me in only when I’m alone, that might work. We’ll see:-) Why do I want it if she doesn’t want it? I don’t know, maybe to prove to myself that I can do it, also because I see it as a kind of celebration of femdom. Also because it arouses me being helplessly locked…and also because I want to please you Mistresses here happy. A little bit of everything. I don’t know… Thank you!
I’d say that starting off with shorter times in chastity would be smart, both for helping you get used to chastity, and for helping reassure your wife that there won’t be any problems with your ongoing health.
Well Mistress Harper, you may say I have taken to chastity like “a dick to waiter”…excuse me….a “duck to water”
Was that a Freudian typo or auto fill. Oh well nonetheless it’s safe to say that since I began my chastity for Mistress a few years back there is no “auto empty” without permission.
Or “manual empty” for that matter.
But then again, that’s the whole point. Allowing Mistress to control all your, ahem, “expressions of gratitude”.
A comfy cage is paramount. Check with Mistress…she knows. Turning control over to her is a wonderful feeling. It is discreet. I adore being out and about, running my errands, all the while locked in my smaller and smaller cages under my panties. Of course it is process but well worth it. Happily I spend hours, days, weeks and months in my chastity for my incredible Mistress.
Chastity can be such a rewarding game to play with your partner! I love knowing that a chastity pet is running around, discreetly locked, owned, and feeling that ownership all day long!