I’ve heard that question so many times, and let me tell you, it’s a doozy. Why am I addicted to sucking cock? There are so many reasons, and none of them really mean that you’re a terrible person for being hooked on dick. Don’t worry, I’ll break it all down for you, and explain some of the reasons why you have intrusive thoughts about dropping to your knees in front of sexy men all the time, and why you can’t get it out of your head! You might be addicted to sucking cock, but that’s no reason to freak out!

A cock sucking addiction can arise from a lot of origin points.

There’s a lot of reasons any given person might become addicted to sucking cock. If you attended our first ever Dear Mistress event, with licensed mental health provider Tamera Powell, you would have heard a bit about the psychological aspects surrounding the development of any fetish or kink. In a nutshell: actions that are pleasurable are self reinforcing. We are all hardwired to move towards pleasure and away from pain or discomfort. We want to repeat pleasant experiences as often as possible, while avoiding unpleasant ones. This seems super obvious once it’s all laid out, doesn’t it? Well, what does all this have to do with being hooked on sucking cock?

Since we want to repeat pleasant experiences, any action that leads us to an orgasm is something we’re likely to repeat.

Any action that leads to orgasm becomes an action we’re likely to want to repeat. And every time we repeat the action, we get another happy groove worn into our pleasure centers that says “yes, do that again”. Imagine that you’re watching porn for the first time. Most mass produced pornos feature a blow job at some point, often right at the beginning, and then again at the end. If you’re incredibly horny, or surprised at what you’re seeing for the first time, you’ll probably have an orgasm during the first cock sucking scene. Got more self control? You’ll make it to the end, where there’s again, likely to be a cock sucking scene. So the idea of getting off to a blow job becomes one of those pleasurable moments that you’ll try to repeat again and again. You’re on your way to towards a full bore addiction, and I bet you never ever thought you’d be asking yourself why you’re addicted to sucking cock just from watching porn…

Maybe you didn’t get addicted to sucking cock from porn.

Perhaps your cock sucking addiction came from a passing thought or fantasy. Maybe you read a really hot story about sucking cock, or talked to a Mistress who introduced the idea. However you got exposed to the idea, it came along with a heady jolt of absolutely divine, obscene lust. It felt so damn good to think about dropping to your knees while your Mistress told you you were a good boy for her. You dropped to your knees in obedience and with the burn of shame and humiliation just making it all that much more hot, and you sucked cock. And now you need. You want and desire and keep on re-visiting that moment. You can ask “why am I addicted to sucking cock”, but you know the answer, don’t you?

Why am I addicted to sucking cock?!

Such a sad cry to make, and it’s a little bit funny from the outside. At the root of it, you’re addicted to licking balls and slurping up cum because it feels really, really good, and you don’t want to stop. And why should you stop, anyway? You’re not hurting anyone, and you’re having a lot of fun. Your addiction to dick isn’t actually a bad thing. You could be addicted much worse things! Be glad it’s just sucking cock. The real pain and anguish you’re feeling isn’t a result of being addicted to sucking cock, you feel pain because you’re conflicted within yourself about sucking cock. The path to resolving your anguish lies in self acceptance.

You’re a cocksucker, sweetie.

The longer you try to fight yourself, and fight your need to watch cocksucking porn and think about kneeling in front of a hard cock, the more miserable you’ll make yourself feel. The key to happiness is self acceptance. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get off on the idea of sucking a dick. Your cries for understanding, your ‘why am I addicted to sucking cock‘, can best be answered with ‘because’. You just are. You like it, you’re not hurting anyone, and it’s totally fine to fantasize about things that turn you on. You’re addicted to sucking cock. And that’s ok.

Drop me a line, a comment or email, or give me a call, to talk about your cocksucking addiction.

Your Cock Sucking Guidance Mistress, Harper

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