Tell me what you need.
It’s a tragic thing when a person becomes addicted to sucking cock.
I bet you know of someone in your community who has fallen prey to the addiction of kneeling before a real man and giving head. Someone, possibly even someone you know, has fallen to their knees and groaned in delight at the mere thought of getting to suck a nice hard cock. Perhaps they think that it’s a secret, their vice, and no one knows what they get up to on the weekends. They may think they have it under wraps, under control, but they really don’t.
Cock sucking addiction can sneak in and take over a life in the blink of an orgasm.
The addiction to sucking cock starts off innocuously enough, with simple porn.
Modern pornography is produced to be appealing to its audience: men. And what are most men obsessed with? Their own cocks. So of course there’s going to be lots of long, lingering shots of cocks. Cocks in mouths, cocks in pussies and asses, cocks shooting all over a pretty face. Cocks everywhere, up close, disembodied so you can imagine yourself (or anyone, really,) in control of that cock.
The disembodied cocks showcased in porn backfire, however, because most men don’t wind up picturing themselves as the owner of that magnificent cock.
The cocks are too big, too perfect, to thick and hard and they last far too long to be an “average” cock. So average men don’t identify with them, and wind up, instead, identifying with the person on their knees. Cocksucking addiction and cocksucking fetishes start with porn, and go on to daydreams and fantasies.
If I were looking to train you to be a cocksucker, I’d set up exactly that situation.
You’d be watching lots of porn that featured cocksucking, jerking off the whole time. You’d only be allowed to orgasm when that load hits the face of the cocksucker in the video. Opperant conditioning is a glorious thing, and when tied to the stages of addiction, well.
The stages of a cocksucking addiction are:
- An exposure to cocksucking.
- The linking of pleasure to the idea of cocksucking.
- The formation of independent fantasies about cocksucking.
- A dependence on fantasies about cocksucking to achieve orgasm.
From there, it’s only a matter of time before the cocksucking addict acts on their fantasies and becomes a real cocksucker.
Once a cocksucker has taken that final step, I’m afraid there’s just no cure. Kneel down even once in front of a real man and suck the jizz from his dick and you’re permanently branded a cocksucker. From then on, you will crave the humiliation and ecstasy of sucking cock, and it all started with watching porn.
I am extremely aroused by how You looked laying down on the bed in this picture. It makes my head swim!!!
You look like a total Goddess in Your red dress.
May I be allowed to print this blog off; and, E-Mail a response to You?
I am very terrified that I would become a cock-sucker.
What’s to be afraid of? Pleasure? Bliss? A load of cum dripping off your chin?
I’d love to hear from you in detail, Adam. Feel free to print it out and then email me a reply. 😉
OMG, You are right! The only thing to be afraid of is pleasure; and, bliss!
Don’t tempt me to write it out in detail.
I hope you don’t mind that I have an addiction to on-line porn?
Of course you do! and you know what that leads directly to, don’t you…
Why not write it out? making it concrete like that is a great step along the road to full addiction. 😉
I feel extremely ashamed to admit this to You.
Yes, I do know what this leads to. Acting on it!
Yes, Mistress! I will write it out to “…make it concrete like that to take a great step along the road to full addiction!”
…good boy.
Did You get my E-Mail?
Yes, I did. Did you get my response to it?
Harper, your article is right on. I started watching porn and would cum when the guy finally shot. Associating it all together I then was curious about sucking. But i took it a step further, I would want to suck while wearing red lipstick, because that was what the women in the films did. Also, by the way, your red lipstick in the above photo really turns me on. Love that color. So to make a long story short, I’ve now have over 100 different cocks.
Yes yes yes was young and seduced by an older man that’s when I knew I was a cocksucker so enjoyed giving head. Now I can’t go very long without sucking a big juicy cock.
finally someone understands. this all started from basic porn with pretty women but since cock was in every shot i started to care less what the woman looked like.im not imterested in guys but pics and videos of cock got more and more interesting.i am worried now since its hard to cum without a cock in the pic/vid. i still like women when i start fantasizing but have to think of cock to orgasm. is there a way to dreverse this?
yes! this started by watching regular porn, then me fantasizing about being the one sucking the cock. I have tried for years to reverse this addiction, but have not been able to succeed. I want to suck cock so bad! Good luck to you Dan f
I don’t remember getting Your response. 🙁
I don’t remember the question? Tell you what, toss me an email and put “Adam’s Question from Blog” in the subject line so I’ll be sure to find you.
I’m not Adam but Bill and must state that cum sucking is really best with another man–DAMN only men not every part of a mans cock, and yes balls and great mans ass-crack and works every part into a great ball draining blow job–most women wont even swallow cum, and almost always stop after just sucking off one load while a guy that really loves and knows all about cock and ass-holes and what really gets him off is a better cock sucker. All my cock sucking buds know all the things that really make a blowjob great–woman just suck up cum and quit hell all the guys I know love to get two or even three great loads of cum mouth massaged out of the hard throbbing cocks!!
Harper, I have never sucked any cock but the urge to do it is there! What should I do?
“Bigger the Better & the More the Marrier” I feel like making a sign & then putting it up on the hotel room door for everyone that walks by..I been lately craving alot more ever since my Previous GF of 3yrs, broke up with me after she caught me sucking her uncle off this last summer . again
.who was ..
still soft & “FlacciD”
in my defense…hella drunk. embarrassing her in front of family” Members” & friends & everyone else that was there .
..I swear to God It was an accident after I stumbled in the bathroom.. & saw him with his pants down idk what happened it’s like I just lost control like a tractor beam get to me .. BLACKEDOUT after seeing his big black Mandingo hanging out hella big .. possibly the biggest bulge I ever seen in my entire mouth
..excuse me
.I meant Life .I still feel hella bad about breaking her heart like that . . after several months .the last time we spoke she has since moved on n fell in love with somebody else.
..but for some reason getting over this time isn’t as easy it seems
Beating myself up ..by offering my mouth as payment to my drug dealer when I don’t have enough money to pay
um.. whenever ever I need some shit to pick me up ..
having wet dreams of me getting Bukkaked on by multiple guys alot more often
instead of counting the sheep.
. so my question is
semen drinking? is it healthy for me & if it is how can I get use to it & desire the taste..
or should I not ..n just Spit it out or
just continue getting spooge
all over my face & follow my dreams.. ?
Just a lonely
Hopless Romantic
I been off n on sucking dick sense an early age..& didn’t Kno it was an addiction until recently when me n my girlfriend split ways..every now n then recently my mouth’ll waters for big black cocks to drown me in that thick liquid..I swallow my own in replace..but it just doest quench the thirst I crave..I love to please. I’m very oral n giving..
For women I worship n honor..
Men r just fetishes..I fantasize of being cuckold n dominated
On my knees for the Goddesses desires &entertainment.. edging myself as I write this..in hopes that one-day these erotic dreams n passion’ll no longer haunt me..& i will be set free from such vices.But.Until then..
I’m just a lonely CumWhore..
Your article is true! I had a dick in my mouth the first time when an alpha buddy trucked me into a bet. After sucking his cock something clicked and I knew I was a cock sucker! When I was younger I fought it but when I hit middle age I decided to suck just one more to see how it felt. I went to an xxx place with glory holes and sucked a dick! That just reinforced how hot it was! After that I kept sucking dock until the point I was sucking dick three or 4 times a week! Yes it’s true, once you suck a cock you are a cock sucker! The more you suck the more you want! Even when alpha guys tell you yo get on your knees and suck their dicks you enjoy the feeling of humiliation it brings! Yes men I am a cock sucker now. Unless you want to be like me, never suck that first dick! It only takes one to make you a cock sucker!
Is there a solution?
Was this an unintentional confluence of events? Or a conspiracy?
I suspect it was an accident; they cut the footage so you can imagine yourself in the man’s role, but unfortunately, them men they hire to be the man in the scenario are so exceptional that it’s difficult to image oneself with a dick that big! oopsy…
The first time I suck cock I was hook . I turn into a slut and suck cock for three hours that day I bet I swallow two gallons of cum that day I went home and was a sleep bin no time !! The next day I went back for more and was split roasted that turn into a gang bang I could barely walk when they where done I lost my virgin asspussy and love it
I’m male. I’d rather get my cock sucked by a female. I’d rather not suck a cock. I watch porn. Am I broken?
absolutely. totally broken. you should call me to discuss your aberrant desires, so I can help you learn to suck cock perfectly!
In all seriousness though, I think you are quite correct. But there is one further stage.
Awareness.
When these truths about cocksucking addiction are exposed the men who succumbed to it don’t rail against their fate or try and find a 12 Step program… They seem to embrace it.
Reveling in the thoughts that they have been subborned and manipulated and controlled.
Awareness is usually the last step, you’re right. From there some try as hard as they can ignore it and pretend it’s not true, and some wind up reveling in it and become true cock sucking whores. 😀
I suspect that is ledge I am currently on. I’ve pretty much reconciled myself to the fantasy, which has blossomed to overshadow a lot although even in fantasy it is mostly still strap ons and shemales… or the disembodied nature you describe, which totally avoids recognition that cocks come with men… but actually doing it? No. Never. Not…yet…
I made the mistake of surfing Tumblr one day… there are tons of Tumblr blogs dedicated to this very idea!
Oh yes, Tumblr has a lot of really interesting blogs! 😉 You should check mine out…
And don’t think I didn’t catch that “yet”!
I know that your post is actually true because when I first started looking at porn, although I was attracted to blow job videos, I never really liked “hard core” stuff… cum shots to the face, gagging. It was about appreciating the women.
Now it really irks me when the girl obscures the view of the cock too much, or if the cock doesn’t meet my standards for a really appealing cock.
Also, I find myself responding more and more strongly to cum shots and the like, but totally identifying with the receiver, where I am now torn between thinking the best thing would be to swallow or take the load onto my face. Well, or in my ass, if I’m honest. I never ever was interested in that and now I start to wonder if that wouldn’t be a more fulfilling way to submit.
Hello Harper
I have sucked a cock of my buddy when I was ***. Not to the end. He finished it by him self. Many years later *** I have sucked off an older man to orgasm. He was wearing a condom and came as I was sucking him. So I never tasted another mens cum, just mine. I can’t stop thinking about finding a real man and orally submitting to him and suck him with out a condom. Would you consider me a cocksucker at this point? I chase the thoughts away as I am married and pretend to be masculine in life. But I can’t wait to drop to my knees if I found a real man. The older guy who is married keeps on emailing me to meet him again. Should I do it? I feel so ashamed right after I made him cum but in few days I want to do it again. I am afraid if I suck him off again, I will be doing it regularly for him and will have to admit to my self that I am a cocksucker.
Where would this lead me? Any advice? Would you please also email me privately? Thank you
Almost a cocksucker
Internalized homophobia is a real problem for a lot of cocksuckers! I’m not surprised you’re dealing with it, a lot of folks have this problem.
You can always arrange a session with me to discuss some of what’s going on!
Wow…I read this and then listened to your older audio “I am going to make your suck cock”…and holy shit…my cock was twitching and throbbing and so F’ing hard…..so yes…I can see how you could take me down the path of being addicted to sucking cock 🙂
Oh, once you know how to create addiction, it’s really easy to do.
I do a lot of dog training, and it’s amazing how similar humans are when it comes to behavior modification. I call it that, behavior modification, because it’s not ‘training’ in the whips and chairs and training sense, but it is taking behavior and modifying it to my own ends.
I love the comparison to dog training…and I agree. After 5 plus years of calling into LDW…I know my behavior has definitely been modified. I also think that sexual behavior / erotic stimulation is much like a drug in that over time it takes more or different types of drugs to get either the same high or a better high.
It’s true for both dog training and human behavior modification: you have to vary the stimuli. And the response! There have been fascinating studies done with online gaming, about reward frequency and stimuli… it’s why people are willing to spend hours sitting in one place, mashing buttons, to amass online game rewards that have no real world value! For best results, you change up the amount and frequency of reward, as well as changing the original stimulus, to keep the mind interested and engaged. Randomness of reward is better than consistency. 😉
Thank you….I enjoyed our call !!!!!!
So did I!!! I’m so glad we got the chance to talk.
The first time I suck cock I cum it turn me on so much !!! I was hook as a teenager on older men’s cock and cum !! When a older man took my cheery boi pussy I cum from being fuck !! When he cum in me he called it seeding me as his bitch !! I was turn out by the age of 14 !! It’s been 42 years now and I still hook on cock and cum in both my mouth and man pussy !! So yes cock and cum are addictive but I would not change a thing I am happy being a cock sucker bitch for men
I agree, if I was allowed to succumb to this fate, I would NOT try to fight it!!
I would fully embrace it.
I would love to be manipulate and controlled like this!!!
Oh my! You are so right about the cocksucking addiction! I have seen so many fall prey to it (thank Goddess!) and I love it! There is just something about having a throbbing cock in your mouth that it gets its hooks in these men and they just can’t stop thinking about cock and sucking cock! And you are so right, it usually does start with porn!
I agree, Thank Goddess!
I am sure You are seductive enough to ‘mind-fuck’ me into sucking cock!
I agree with You 110% that it usually starts with watching porn (something I have an addiction with, online).
I LOVE how dominant You are.
I suspect it won’t take much effort at all to have you on your knees soon, Adam. 😉
No, it won’t take much effort at all.
I wish You would respond to me.
I am also curious, are You really a dark witch?
I’m a Zen Shamanic Witch. So, to certain versions of modern Christianity, I suppose that would make me a “dark witch”. lol!
I love this Ms. Harper – and you are so right, cocksucking can be quite an addiction for many submissives and porn addicts.
But I don’t think I agree with it being a tragic thing. I mean I love watching a cocksucker indulge in his addiction to cock… I love the humiliation of it! But I suppose for the guys, it could be a terrible thing… to begin with anyway, lol…
I used to view becoming a cock sucking whore as a terrible, humiliating development. However, the more I think about it, I think it should be something that I should pursue and aspire to be (cock sucker). I have little-to-no doubt that the first time I feel a hard cock jerk stream after stream of warm, creamy cum down my throat and onto my face, I am going to love it. I do also find the humiliation aspect to be hot so while I would welcome humiliation in the presence of a superior female, secretly I will be extremely happy to have taken my first of many cum loads!
I think it is tragic in the full sense of the world – theatrical and shocking. With elements of the inescapable fate of prophecies in the old Greek plays where resistance begets the outcome sought to prevent.
If you consider porn a sort of vicarious means of using the participants (mainly women) for your own pleasure, such that you seek to use them in such acts – penetrating them, having them beg, marking them with you seed…
And then through the unanticipated process Harper described, you find yourself identifying with the object of your fantasy, entranced by the cocks you smugly believed held the women in thrall, needing to suck…
There’s an element of tragedy there no doubt. Especially as the fantasy becomes bigger, and the craving to suck grows. To be penetrated, to be marked by their seed. To feel in thrall to the magnificence of those cocks.
You are right Harper,it is indeed a tragic thing,when someone becomes addicted.When they are encouraged to “anchor” their orgasm ONLY to the stimulus of cock shots,then how tragic indeed when they make attempts at real lovemaking with a real person.What this? No erection and no orgasm.Yikes! Turns out,all that internet porn,and all that conditioning has dumbed down my senses.Turns out my mind responds only to the adrenline porn shot I’ve been feeding it on a daily basis.Just like a drug,you are screwed.How tragic.
Operant conditioning, I love it! Who knew B.F. Skinner would have a thing or two to say about cocksucking? 😉
You are so right about the stages of cocksucking addiction, Ms. Harper. In my experience, there’s an inevitable (and often brisk) progression through the stages. There’s no viable treatment or cure to cocksucking addiction, so all a cocksucker can do is accept his fate and open wide! Fortunately for them, a Mistress like you is there to guide them.
I am reading this blog post and thinking that it should be up on the suckpatrol website as a sticky. It’s so true. There is no cure but there is the wonderful world of acceptance. No one likes someone that is stuck in denial. I could see you really getting a little submissive to that stage pretty quickly. (Even if you are dragging his fragile little body along the way…) 😛
You are right, Ms Harper. I think those floating penises in porn have actually done more for cultivating cocksucking addiction than countering it. For those who acknowledge that there is no cure, it’s a good thing that they have us Mistresses to rely on. Good management is the key to not getting overwhelmed by their desire to suck cock on a regular basis.
Wow, you are the devil, or my ex, or both. She encouraged me to just try it because she thought it would be hot. And she conditioned me so that when the time came for this to actually happen she didn’t even have to force the issue. Then, the day after when we we’re discussing the previous nights events she could tell I was still excited about it and commented about it. I denied I enjoyed it as well as the other things that transpired that night but it was a big turn on. You describe the stages I went thru almost verbatim, especially & sadly #4. I am still able to have regular intercourse however when I masturbate now it’s always to the thought of cock. There are times when I wish I never met my on again off again GF, and there are times I am so thankful for her.
I believe I have realized there is a Step 5.
The overwhelming urge to perform.
I believe this goes back to the beginning of the circle, porn. Like the porn starlets, the addict now so thoroughly identifies with them that an audience becomes a part of the cocksucking equation.
I love sucking cockjust like a pornographic star slut! I have been an avid cocksucker for ten years now and even when i did have” p ussy” (ex girlfriend in other words ) i was cuckold to her manipulative , deceitful ways! I was hurt, at first, but then on the road to sexual bliss and acceptance i found that it is only right and just for woman to use and abuse me as the pliant; skinny wimp that i am . Mistress Marlena: excellent blog post!and ,just to add the comment thata lot of Cucked men naturally should be covered in jizz-seen as how they naturally are incapable of pleasing women
Interesting theory. I wonder how it is that so many men are so weak-willed as to fall to this
I’m a cocksucker, that’s all I can add to this thread. I love cock, I need cock, I worship cock, praise cock, think about cock, thinking about tasting cock, and of course swallowing my just reward. Problem being I just don’t have the nerve to follow thru. Living a closeted and agonizing life.
This is one of the hottest posts on the web. It’s also so true it’s scary. Having started as just a harmless fantasy even before I found this place now years later even though I’ve tried to ‘climb back up’ so to say after noticing ‘changes’ in myself it hasn’t seemed possible. ? Even just holding myself at stage 4 has recently become harder. But if I don’t like you said, if I go beyond 4 I will have branded myself. ?
Hi Mistress Harper. We had a wonderful call last week and I will be calling you again soon. I love your posts on cocksucking, on being a “faggot” and being feminized. That is exactly me.
I’m so glad you had fun with me! I certainly loved helping you make all your cocksucking faggot dreams come true. <3
One porn video described a six step process for going from str8 to cocksucker.
1. Imagination
2. Experimentation
3. Escalation
4. Resistance
5. Addiction
6. Acceptance
When I sucked a cock for the first time, I never imagined I would ever do it again. However, the experience was stuck in my mind, andI began to crave cock more and more. I started advertising on Craigslist for cocks, and found many men willing to have a man suck them.
I was in denial for years, but I found I was sucking more and more cocks, and being fucked by men.
I reached the stage where I no longer care about fucking a woman. I’m addicted to cocks now, and will suck anyone. At 67 years old, I have made giving blow jobs my life’s work.
Omg this is me
I’m so close to making the last step! I’ve even texted my d@ddy how much I need his cock in my mouth,but chickened out hitting the send button. I want to be his obedient cockslut. It’s the only way I get hard is to fantasize of him rubbing his manhood all over my sissy face. Oooh! I want to suck him so bad!!!
… First of all, I want to thank the writer ‘Harper’ for this wonderfully written ‘Historical Fact’ piece. Without a doubt the best, precisely written, non-fiction (means it’s the truth!), step by step article on becoming a cock sucker.
*exactly how it happens, literally.
thank you again!!
“CS in Florida”