It seems like it comes to to a choice between Abstinence Only Sex Education and going of to Whore School.
As you know, dear reader, I’m not a fan of most modern attempts at Sex Education. As a young adult, I was super interested in sex. That first Sex Ed class, while highly anticipated, was such a let down! I thought I was going to learn what sex was all about, and instead I got to watch a very gross up close video of a birth. The best part was when the teacher rewound the video (hi there cutbacks in funding, yes, it was a VHS tape), so we could see it go back inside. Now that’s how you convince horny people not to fuck! The rest of the class was full of not very detailed anatomy lectures and warnings not to let our “flowers” be “plucked” too soon, whatever the fuck that means. We were in Sex Ed, not Whore School, and at no point was the idea that sex could be fun or good ever brought forward.
Once I hit college, I decided to take my education into my own hands and put myself through a prototype of Whore School…
I was your original unschooled self motivated learner, and I absorbed all the low down on the down and dirty I could get my hands on. Fetishes, paraphilias, weird ass sexual practices (heh, ass practices), you name it I looked into it. And I kept on learning right through undergrad into grad school, and focused myself on sex and gender studies. There is very little about sex and human bodies that I don’t have a least some knowledge of.
A friend of mine has offspring at about the right age to begin their adventures in Sex Ed, so I looked over their schoolwork. Holy Fucking Shit it’s gone downhill since I went through that program. I won’t bore you with the stupid ass details, but let’s just say the clitoris isn’t involved in modern Sex Ed, and neither is any understanding of what a condom is.
As a professional in the field of sex and gender, I feel a certain responsibility to the people around me; so I’m founding Whore School.
To start off, I went and found a course syllabus for a college level sex and sexuality class, one of those basic level Health classes. For bonus points, it’s from a religious school! And then I modified the hell out of it. Let me show you what I’ve come up with so far for class topics:
- Big Thoughts
- Philosophy
- Morality
- Ethics
- Fun Bits
- Anatomy
- Inside and Outside
- Biological Sex
- Gender Identity
- Sexual Orientation
- Ugh, Talking
- Relationships
- Roles
- Communication
- Let’s Get It On!
- Sexual Behavior
- Sexual Fantasies
- Sexual Reality
- Ew Gross!
- Sexually Transmitted Illness
- Sexually Transmitted Disease
- Sexually Transmitted Parasites
- Do It In The Butt
- Condoms
- Dental Dams
- Safer Sex
- Weird-Ass Kinky Stuff
- Fetishes
- Paraphilias
- BDSM
- Consent, Motherfucker!
- Negotiation With a Partner
- The Importance of Trust
- Safewords
Now for the important part: I need your feedback on Whore School.
What topics are important to you, what would you like to see included, and where can I improve the proposed class listing? Feel free to assume the ‘Fetishes’ and ‘Paraphilias’ sections are infinitely expandable, and send me ideas for various kinky things you’d like to know more about. I’ll also happily accept guest lectures/posts on any topic you feel qualified to write on!
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Probably move “Consent, Motherfucker!” up in the syllabus to just before or after “Ugh, Talking” since that is where you start to get involved with other people.
One thing that strikes me as missing is that while it is applicable to every category, there isn’t a specific topic on Masturbation, which is undoubtedly where people’s first sexual exploration is going to begin.
Also, while it can be included as part of many other categories, given the name “Whore School” there doesn’t seem to be a specific topic on understanding, dealing with, and potentially ignoring societal attitudes on sexuality. The choice of “Whore School” as the name would appear to embrace a counterculture aspect or reclamation of the term.
This is all excellent stuff. But where are the Electives where I get so enraptured by some of these ideas I get into trouble and possibly even taken advantage of by the headmistress? :-p
Excellent suggestions!
I like the re-ordering of the consent section, because you’re right! That is where we start interacting with other people. And in that line of thought, Masturbation and self pleasure should come before that, too… and after Anatomy, because once you identify the parts it’s only natural to want to play with them. 😉
I think the societal standards around sex would come in the Philosophy and/or Ethics part: there’s societies expectations of what sex is and should be, and then there are various subcultures with their own ideas, and then there is the personal level, where you decide for yourself what sex is and ought to be.
And those Electives will absolutely trip you up! lol I’m so in love with the venue the Jack Off Club provides that I want to utilize the hell out of it for Whore School chats. It allows us to get very down and dirty with topics. I’m also planning to launch a radio show via Spreaker and our Cock Radio Channel, to go along with the blog series, and that will feature chats in the Community Kink chat room, which is PG13, but, if we can all be super adult about our whorishness, will allow for a mature discussion of topics. 😉
Good stuff here! I will be doing a re-vamp of the course listing, with more suggestions and goodness added in! Thank you thank you!
I love the syllabus for Whore School. My only question is how do I enroll? Well maybe one other question…will there be advice for the poorly endowed on how to please? And will there be classroom demonstrations? And what sort of videos will we be watching…you know strictly for informational purposes? 😉
I think the Get It On section would be where the bits about how to make your partner happy even when you’re underendowed would go. 😉
and you enroll by showing up! All audit all the time.
…in fact, I have plenty of space for guest lecturers… Got something you’re especially knowledgeable on? The more the merrier!
i will gladly sign up as “demostrator” under fetishes& kinky stuff!
Sweet Sissy Chrissy, I’d happily put you up in front the class to show off your skills. 😉
I want to sit in the back of the class and play with myself Ms. Harper. There is always one bad girl in the back that knows how to push the teacher’s buttons. I want to be that girl. I want to have my biggest dildo out in class when sissy chrissy is doing her show and tell. Can I? Can I pleeease?
I don’t think the bad girls asked permission much… 😉
Go for it, let’s see if your big dildo distracts poor Sissy Chrissy. I bet it does!
Hah! Miss Simone, I love Your comment! If You decide to try to get in trouble with the Teacher, please let Me know ahead of time so I can “watch” what happens next. Me and My dirty mind are thinking of something having to do with restraints and a Hitachi wand!
Now then, Miss Harper, have You read The Ethical Slut, and if so, what did you think of it? I don’t know if You intend to provide ALL the course materials Yourself, but if not, some of Your students might find it interesting! IF it dovetails with what you want to impart, that is.
The Ethical Slut is an excellent read! I found it to be a good primer on polyamorous relationships and ethical non-monogamy. If you like Ethical Slut, try More Than Two, it goes a little deeper and is less hierarchical, which I especially liked. It even talks about a secondary relationship bill of rights! so if you’re the ‘extra’ in a relationship, you can use it as a starting point for discussing your needs and requirements in a relationship.
Aaaaah! the Queen is a Professor! OK, with everyone talking about demonstrations, show and tell, signing up…I’m in!
Can I be Your Ethical Slut Harper? Oh yeah… and Your *More than Two* too? I promise I will be your good primer for a mollyamorous relataionship if you know what I mean! ; )
You know… let’s custom tailor that one since this is called Whore School. I will be *Your More Whore for Two*!
I suppose you could add sexual abstinence somewhere in there but not to teach restraint from any or all sex, which I can only see as harmful, but instead abstinence from a tease point of view, of withholding for a time, which I know all too well I’m afraid! Or maybe you would consider that a sexual behavior.
How about starting the whole thing with the History of Sex and Sexual Behavior? I’ll bet most don’t realize how far back some sexual practices really go.
Open any book on erotic art and you can see how far back many of them go.
And don’t forget Sex of the Mind, where it really all takes place anyway. I would say place it under Inside and Outside category just before Biological Sex. It has to start in our brain first, right?
Then there is our Mental Well-Being, more sex in the brain.
The conscious and unconscious aftereffects and benefits of healthy sex. The purging of desires and impulses and how they affect our mental well-being, our self-esteem, our *id*, our ego and even our superego.
That’s all I can think of adding…
*Your More Cum-Licker Whore for Two* ; )
You can always be my more than two! One of these days, I will get Molly and you together with me for a hot cum eating threesome.
On a serious note, I see abstinence as separate from and different (fundamentally) from chastity. Tease and delay/denial, chastity games… those are not abstinence! Abstinence is the utter lack of sexual activity, chastity is refraining for a set time from sexual activity with the understanding that you’ll become sexually active later. Chastity games, tease and d/d, those are things you do with or for another person, or for your own eventual sexual release; in abstinence, there is no eventual sexual release at all! There’s just no sexual behaviors in any way whatsoever, no masturbation, no giving oral to your partner(s), no watching porn, no shopping for panties, no calling to talk about how horny you are from extended chastity…
blech, abstinence. Leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
… and how it all affects our Physical well-being.
I would like some straight forward advice on a lot of actual things that happen.
Just a sample:
How to ask to see recent test results before sucking him off bareback?
How to get yourself picked up in a social setting.
How to make sure he does not pull off the condom while you are sucking his balls then blows a load in your throat when you think you are putting his condom covered cock back in your mouth. Happened to me. Had my eyes closed.
You want to receive anal on your back, he wants you in doggie only!
blowing his friends if he pressures you?
How to make my voice more feminine?
How to be more than a quick blow job before he goes home or after his sports game. Although I do like it.
Those are some excellent topics! I’m sorry you had a partner who was so dismissive of your wants and needs sexually, and who took your health and your boundaries so lightly. 🙁 That truly sucks.
Boundaries, negotiation, and the safer sex talk will definitely be covered. In Sissy Fundamentals we’ll discuss voice techniques, and that one there’ll be a lot of audio examples for you girls, where I go step by step through changing your voice and intonation.
Dealing with pressure to perform in a way you don’t want to/like to, or for people you don’t care to be with… We’ll cover that, in two different ways. The first is the sexy smutty fantasy way, where you’re a whore and you like it anyway even if you protest. The other is the really real world way where we talk about consent, and name the acts with their actual legal names: sexual assault, sexual battery, and rape. That’ll be a heavy class, with some intense talk, but it’s stuff that does need to be said out loud, if we’re going to talk about sexual education. What to do when your partner crosses the line, how to get help, how to find an advocate, what to say to authorities, whether you want to go to the authorities or not, where to go to get help healing from the trauma and how to find pleasure in sex again, afterward.
I promise not to shy away from the real hard topics, and to deal with them as compassionately and honestly as I can. And I’ll foster a space in which we’ll all be compassionate and kind to one another while talking about hard things.
hugs!!!