Have you ever been so stressed out that you couldn’t sleep? Maybe there’s something going on in your life that’s causing you a great deal of upset, or maybe it’s just some nice free floating mental health that’s bothering. No matter what the cause of your stress, you can do a few things to help alleviate the symptoms and start to get a handle on things. Masturbation for stress relief is a good option that gets offered by therapists, but obviously they’re not going to give you JOI or any deeper guidance. And sometimes, stress means boner goes bye-bye! What to do?
Masturbation for Stress Relief
At this point everyone knows that masturbation can help with your stress levels, but for a lot of folks that about the extent of what you know. Yes, orgasms do cause your blood pressure to drop right after you cum. And yes, all the physiological markers for stress drop post orgasm, too. But masturbation is not synonymous with orgasm, and there’s a deeper thing at play here. Not to be too terribly biological deterministic about it all, but masturbation first and foremost takes place in your brain, not in your body. The health benefits of masturbation and an orgasm are known, and measurable. The health benefits of gooning, edging, indulging in some BDSM with a little sensual JOI? Less measured, but anecdotally and based on what I know about the mind/body connection, compelling.
Stress is the Boner Denier
Long term stress, or extreme periods of stress, can really make anyone’s libido drop, or even vanish entirely. If you just don’t have the energy to spare to contemplate sexuality, it makes sense that of course you wouldn’t want to fuck, or jerk off. Not even for the health benefits. This is where the advice from a therapist to ‘just masturbate for your stress’ fails and falls flat. How do you jerk off if you can’t even get it up? Cue the use of erectile disfunction medications, and the slow slide down to just plain bad sex. Remember that all sex, and solo sex or masturbation is SEX, starts in the mind. When stress is preventing you from feeling sexy, it’s time to deploy other tactics and trick your brain and body into a boner and arousal.
Get Your Mind Right
All sex, all masturbation, all starts in the mind. Your mind is the main part of you that experiences stress, too. If your mind is stressed, it effects your body! Stress headaches, stress upset tummy and other digestion issues, stress raises your blood pressure and heart rate, and generally is a bad time for all your interconnected body systems. How, then, do you masturbate when your mind is a pit of seething stress?!!! Distract your mind. Try a hot shower or bath, and focus on directing your attention towards how it feels, physcially. Touch yourself slowly, taking your time and really paying close attention to the sensuality of touch on your skin. Apply some lotion, rub that in, all while focusing on how good it will feel to jerk off, to masturbate, to cum. Every time the stress thought intrudes, do not get upset or frustrated, just, breathe, set the stress thought aside, and go back to your sensual self touch.
Meditation?! While Stressed?!
I meditate, and I use meditation techniques to help control my mind and redirect emotional reactions away from harmful patterns and towards helpful ones. If you’re so stressed your hair is falling out and your libido has fucked off to Barbados, do not try a silent sitting meditation!!! You are not ready for what that will do to you. The raw, unfiltered, full force stream of your consciousness with nothing to distract you from it? Yikes. Start with a physical meditation like the above shower/bath sensual self touch and self love practice. Start with mindfully masturbating, even if you don’t cum, just to feel the arousal in your body, get re-centered into yourself, and enjoy something positive. A silent, sititng meditation is not something I’d recommend for stressed out folks to start with.
Want To Masturbate With Me?
One of the most beneficial things a beginner to meditation can do is to attend a guided meditation. Sadly, public guided meditation sessions don’t let you take your pants off and masturbate. But, I do! A sensual guided masturbation and meditation session is right up my alley. And, it’ll help with your stress levels. You get guidance, an orgasm, and to not think about whatever thing is stressing you out right now. Think of me as your very sexy guru, guiding you to a higher state of relaxation and arousal.
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