If you’re a fan of my weekly live adult sex education podcast Whore School, you’ve heard me talk about how important it is to continually educate yourself about sex, sexuality, gender, and gender expression. If the last time you had an expert talk to you about sex was in a long-ago sex ed class filled with people the same age as yourself, you’re overdue for a refresher to make sure you’re not accidentally believing in common sex myths! As time moves on and society advances, we learn more and more about, well, everything! It’s important to check in ever so often just to make sure there hasn’t been a breakthrough that upends all your previous education and assumptions about the world. And thus, I bring you queer sex tips, guaranteed to make your sex and pleasure better.

Queer Sex Tips

The first, worst assumption you can ever make about yourself is to think that you definitely know everything there is to know on any given subject. The outer edge of what is known is constantly expanding, so unless you yourself are on that cutting edge of research, it is pretty well guaranteed that you don’t know everything about whatever topic you’re contemplating. That means you definitely don’t know everything there is to know about queer sex, extra especially if you’ve been having fairly vanilla hetero sex up to this point! Don’t worry, I’m a professional Femdom Mistress and Sex Educator, so I do a lot of reading and hang out with a lot of very sex positive people. My queer sex tips are going to blow your mind.

Sex Is Not Just Penis In Vagina

If you think that sex always involves a penis or phallic shaped object being inserted into someone’s body in some way, you’re suffering from a phallo-centric concept of sex. Way back in the day good ol’ Billy Clinton asked for a definition of sex, when asked if he’d had sex with Ms Lewinsky. If you think sex is “penis in vagina”, then technically he did not in fact have sex with her. That’s why we need to move past the ‘Penis Is King’ concept of sex and sexuality, expand your definition of what ‘counts’ as sex, and get really inventive. In fact, that’s my first tip for you: sex doesn’t have to involve penetration at all!

The Wide World of Queer Sex

Once you stop trying to stick a dick in, what’s left? I can just hear you wondering, you poor phallo-centric fucker. Everything is left! You can hump, rub, masturbate (alone or with your partner(s)), touch, worship, caress, lick, taste, suck, nibble, bite, grip, stroke, tease, and touch. Every part of a person’s body can be part of your sexuality! Use your mouth and your lips, your nose and senses of smell and taste, to truly glory in the sensual feast that is your partner! Explore your own body in ways that you haven’t bothered to in ages through queer masturbation. Touch yourself, discover what parts of your body make you tingle. Are your nipples sensitive? The underside of your arm, above your elbow? What happens if you scratch your nails along your legs, do you like it? What about your partner? How long can you last if you get out some good massage oils, rub your partner down, and use your hands to reduce them to a limp and moaning mess?

Queer Sex Is Better!

Sure, sometimes a nice hard fuck is fun. However, the parts of sex that get ignored or neglected if that’s the only thing you ever do can be even more fun, and better for you and your partner(s)! Take penetration off the table entirely for a while, and explore everything else you can do with and for yourself and your sex partner. Queer sex often ignores hetero-centered ideas of who’s on ‘top’, or who has to take on the ‘male’ role. Screw that, you can all be feminine and pillow princess like the gender queer slut you are, just take turns being the one cared for! Oh, and, yes, queer sex often does involve more than just two people in the bedroom, or play space. Why limit yourself to that traditional het concept of sex and sexuality? Release the shackles on your mind, have a threesome in the living room in which no one gets filled but everyone gets fulfilled.

Listen To Whore School

You can stream the hour long discussion on Sex Beyond Penetration on demand. There’s even more tips for queer sex in there, including a frankly graphic description of alternate erogenous zones located on a penis. You read that right. If you’d like to explore queer sex, I did mention that I’m a professional, right? Hi there, you can call me and talk with me about all this fun stuff. Want to roleplay? Explore? Experience some queer fuckery with me? You know what to do.

Your Queer Mistress, Harper

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