Did you know that the Enchantrix Empire Sissy Pageant is BACK?! It is! We’ve put in a whole lot of work behind the scenes to ensure that this year’s pageant goes off without a hitch, and that includes preparing all our best sissy tips and life advice for those who appreciate the softer things in life. If you’re interested in joining the Pageant, check out the announcement post, because it has all the information you need. If you’re feeling a little shy and need a good sissy cheerleader to boost you up and get you motivated, well, let me shake my pom-poms at you! Gurl, you can do this!
Sissy Tips For Everyone
I know, not all my readers and fans are sissies, but you know me. I like to take advice and tips and apply them outside the areas they’ve been aimed at. Like, if a well balanced diet is good for us, then it’s also good for our gardens, so using compost to top-dress my tomatoes is just smart. And if it’s a good idea to wash your face with facial soap, because the stuff you use on your ass is bad for your face, it’s also a good idea to make sure you’re using the right product for any task at hand! Don’t make ‘do’ with what you have nearby when there is a better tool or product meant for what you’re doing. So if these sissy tips put you off because you’re a big manly man and not a sissy, just pretend the word ‘sissy’ isn’t there and keep reading. My tips are good for any gender presentation or self identity!
Fuck Conventional Wisdom and Gender Roles
Tip number one for all human beings: if what society says you’re ‘supposed’ to be doing does not spark joy, Marie Kondo that shit. Toss it, get rid of it, and live yourself an extraordinary life. Conventional Wisdom would tell you that horizontal stripes make you look fat, but if you found the perfect cute dress in a rainbow gradient stripe that happened to be horizontal and it makes you giggle like a loony tune every time you catch a glimpse of yourself in it, embrace the stripes! If your traditionally assigned gender role says “men don’t moisturize, they harden in the sun like old cracked leather” and that seems like a bad idea to you, grab yourself some goddamn lotion and maybe also some sunscreen. Society will tell you that we celebrate pageants for women, not men. Society is ass wrong, by the way, because we do in fact have pageants for men, and they’re AWESOME.
Chase Your Joy
Hand-in-hand with tossing the societal conventions that don’t actually improve your life is my next bit of life advice: seek bliss. These two bits of Harper’s Wisdom (distilled from lots and lots of self help books, philosophy texts, and spiritual books) combine to create the great motivating energy of a truly ecstatic life. Move away from what harms you and towards what makes you thrive. Gang, if wearing feminine things makes you go all blushy and happy and squirm in your seat, then wear the fucking lingerie. If you truly love a fitted three piece suit, wear the suit! They’re sexy and look nice and you’ll look nice in it, and who cares if it’s an expression of a particular form of masculinity if it makes you happy. Create the sort of life that you’d really love living, and then just, go live it! Do the thing that brings you joy, even if the rest of the world looks at you a little funny for it. We need more happy, creative, joyful people in the world. You can be one of them.
Take Your Pictures From a Downward Angle
Last bit of advice, and this truly does apply to all people. Sissies, crossdressers, cis men who’ve never even eaten a pussy before, all y’all can benefit from this sissy tip. When you’re taking a picture of yourself, hold your camera just above your own eye line. You’ve seen college co-eds doing selfies, and how they hold the phone out at arms length and then raise it? Do that. It eliminates any possible double chin issues (camera phones have a focus point that sucks for close up portraiture, you don’t actually have a nose that big, it’s the camera), and holding your camera out and up really does help create better images. Everyone wants to look their best, and this is one HUGE tip that will help. But, please, do try to avoid doing duck-lips at the camera, it’s a very played out and tired trend, do not embrace that one.
Everyone Can Join the Sissy Pageant!!!
Not just ‘everyone can join’, but, I really do want to encourage you to step outside your comfort zone and join the pageant for real! You don’t have to fully dress, or use a ton of makeup, identify as a sissy or crossdresser, or anything else. No entrance examination to make sure you’ve got the right experience and credentials here! Just a whole lot of folks honestly celebrating themselves and being fun and sexy with us. Grab a pair of panties, or some real sexy man-undies, maybe a harness and a touch of hair gel to make yourself look real nice. Snap some cute pics and come share with us. The prizes are really nice this year (grand prize is an hour of free phone sex)! You don’t even have to shave, though you can if you want to. Just remember that downward angle tip…
Your Sissy Tips Mistress, Harper
“Move away from what harms you and towards what makes you thrive.”
Such a succinct simple phrase, but one we (myself most definitely included) too often neglect to consider, leaving us in toxic situations (situations that harm us).
Since Harper’s contest (see https://www.fetishphonesexblog.com/2024/04/participation-prize-win-free-phone-sex-with-me/ )I have been spending some time on the Masturbation Affirmation group blog site. For many people, Daily Affirmations can really help us internalize out inherent right to that which makes us thrive, our inherent right to avoid that which harms you.
That’s also what is so so so beautiful about group blog sites like the Sissy Style Magazine group blog site, and the Sissy Pageant that Harper mentions in this blog post. Society at large can be toxic to sissies, it is systemic.
But thankfully these resources are available that can be used to help us accept ourselves, learn about ourselves, and even provide outside validation of who we are.
Thank you for all your tips, Harper!
We’ve built up a little corner of the internet just chock full of affirmations and positive encouragement! No Negative Nellies here, we’re all about embracing your joy and going for it, no matter what site you find us on. 😉
You’re a real motivator. I really appreciate one thing. Even if I look like a monkey, no one here will ever tell me and everyone will cheer me on because they like me and I really appreciate that. I don’t think I look all that revolutionary, but I’m sure no one will mock me for my appearance unless I want it myself as a form of kink humiliation.
The ladies on Enchantrix Empire are all absolutely gorgeous and I really appreciate that.
And you’re absolutely right, we live our lives, not other people’s.
Thank you Mistress Harper! <3
You know if anyone does say something mean to you, you let us know! No bullies allowed on our sites! We’ll shut that down with a quickness. Everyone is celebrated for themselves, for who you are, and we all ascribe to the ‘Thumper’ philosophy (if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!)
That’s what I’m saying. No one has ever said anything bad to me, on the contrary. That’s why I appreciate it so much! That’s why I feel so good here. I also try to follow it.
You’re just amazing!
thank you!
I think our community is only as good as our members, so you’re doing a lot to help make the Empire awesome, too! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Mistress, I appreciate it! 💖🌺🥰
Thank you Mistress Harper. After much trepidation and pearl clutching…(mine aren’t real) I have joined the Sissy Pageant and I will do the best I can, but more importantly, enjoy this first time experience. The enthusiasm is evident from all those joining the site. Since joining EE I have been having a wondrous time, sharing, learning, meeting but probably above all revelling in the relief I am not so alone and people here are accepting of me. I may face a few challenges along the way but I am so looking forward to participating.
I’m glad you’ve found the community we’ve built to be so welcoming! And that you’re joining the pageant, too!!! The more the merrier!
The picture tip is interesting. I would try to apply it on my next picture sessions.
Also another tip that I have done is looking in google/pinterest for feminine pose and I have put in a Pinterest for inspiration in picture sessions.
Oh, I love that tip! Browsing images online for poses!!! Perfection
We absolutely need more happy, creative and joyful people in the world! I will follow the pageant with interest 🙂
You should join in with us! It’s a lot of fun 😉