I want to help you reach a certain kind of nirvana. The joy and bliss that comes from knowing that you are exactly where you need to be, doing exactly what you’re supposed to be doing should be available to you in the here and now! I know, finding that sort of happiness can be difficult, especially in a hectic, fast paced world that demands so much of your attention, time, and energy. Hang tight with me a moment, though, and I’ll give you a few tips that can help you reach and embrace your own special blissful state, through the power of becoming a genderslut.

What’s a genderslut?

So, you already know what gender is, right. Of course you do. You’re a fan of my Adult Sex Ed podcast Whore School, and I’ve certainly talked about the distinctions between sex, gender, and orientation often enough. I’ve explained that your sex is what’s between your legs, your orientation is what you’re attracted to, and your gender is how you carry yourself through the world. Well, your gender can also be informed by how other people treat you, or expect you to act, as well as cultural cues and expectations. A genderslut is a person who takes all those external expectations about your own gender performance and merrily chucks them out the window.

So how does being a gender slut lead to peace and nirvana?

Think of all the things you carry with you in a day, in your mental load. The weight of other people’s expectations of you can really wear you down. If you’re a man, the pressure to conform to masculine standards is overwhelming! You need to dress a certain way, and make sure your facial hair conforms to standards, and you have to monitor what you eat and how you eat it and did you moan in joy over that meal? Make sure to flirt enough, and drink beer with the bros, and don’t watch the wrong sorts of entertainment and do watch the right sort so you can talk about the Big Game at the watercooler at work… there’s just so much! Imagine for one moment that you just stopped doing all that constant checking and monitoring of yourself for proper gender performance.

What if you watched the entertainment that made you happy, instead of the Big Game or whatever high octane super-duper masculine Trend you feel like you ‘have to’ watch? Maybe you’re enthralled by home makeover shows! Goodness knows the Property Brothers could come do some remodeling for me and I’d be a happy human over it! Yes, please, give me some barn doors and cute dining room set and a fabulous chandelier! Maybe the Great British Baking Show can reduce you to tears over a lovely bundt cake. Perhaps you’d rather watch daytime soaps and weep over convoluted relationship structures, or take notes on some complex bit of cooking. Maybe you really do want to learn to make perfect sourdough bread! Could it be that throwing out all these ideas about what’s masculine and what’s feminine and just doing what makes your heart happy is the real key to bliss and joy in life? Could you be a genderslut and just run with whatever makes you happy in the moment, and screw what society and culture says you’re ‘supposed’ to do?!

Be a gender delicious slut!

Join me in some lovely, wild, enthusiastic genderslut shenanigans! Be the slut for your own life that you deserve to be! Life is goddamn short and full of stress, woe, and frankly terrible things. So, do what makes you happy, and tell the rest of the world to screw off. You may have to wear a uniform for work, but you can put what you’d like underneath it. You might have to conform to expectations just to put a meal on the table, but that meal can be something other than a microwaved Hungry Man!!! Wear the panties, shave your legs, put on lip gloss, learn to cook, get a manicure, and take joy in cleaning your own home. All those supposedly feminine things can bring a man joy, too. Be a genderslut and go for whatever makes you happy, with no regard to whether you’re ‘supposed’ to like that shit.

Embrace your genderslut nature, sluts!

Remember: I’ve got a special event going on for all Summer long! And, the entire Erotic Audio Store is on sale for 25% off! PLUS, call both Duchess Willow and I at the same time, and get your call extended just so you can play with both of us at once. Trust me, Willow knows how to genderslut things up, too! Embrace happiness, embrace being a genderslut!

Your genderslut, genderbending, genderextravagant Mistress, Harper