Let’s talk about Erotic Humiliation.
Erotic Humiliation is one of those oddball fetishes that nearly everyone participates in and yet very few people overtly admit their enjoyment of it. When you’re into being told you’re a “dirty girl”, you’re into erotic humiliation. When you get turned on by being naked in a room full of fully clothed women, that’s erotic humiliation, too. And when you’ve got a fantasy that involves being “caught” with a boner by the object of your lust? Erotic humiliation again!
How is that erotic humiliation can be such a common turn on?
It’s not surprising at all that erotic humiliation is a very common turn on. Humiliation, embarrassment, feeling bashful or abashed, are all subsets of one of the oldest parts of the human body. Imagine, if you will, the endocrine system. This endocrine system is in charge of some of the most primitive and vital reactions in our species. You probably learned about it as the Fight or Flight Response, but it really should be called the Fight, Flight, or Fuck Response. The adrenal glands, other lymph glands, various happy hormone producers in our body, and the hypothalamus all working together to keep us alive.
Basically, we’re all built to react to erotic humiliation.
When you get embarrassed, your heart races, your breath speeds up, your blood pressure elevates, blood rushes to your extremities and you flush. When you get turned on, your heart races, your breath speeds up, your blood pressure elevates, blood rushes to your extremities and you flush. Because both arousal and embarrassment are using the exact same metabolic pathways, a little erotic humiliation can feel very, very good. It feels like being turned on, and that can lead to some fun humiliation games between you and your partner.
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That actually makes a lot of sense of something that is difficult to make sense of.
Tagging this for the scavenger hunt!
Well, I’m glad you found this one. Have you found all the others?
like to rub my breasts on woman breasts and nipples to nipples was told I am lesbian-woman in malebody that sound right?
Dearest Harper,If eroticism has a brain,you are it! I never thought of humiliation in the context you describe….and never considered humiliation a big part of my sexuality.But,humiliation doesn’t always mean open comdemnation anymore than dominance means only being tied and whipped.I guess there is soft humiliation just as soft domination.So much diversity!
Hi Rod, this comment of yours sparked an entire new blog post! The Sensual Humiliation post was written with you in mind.
I can’t comment on the physiology of it but what one the reasons I like humiliation psychologically is that I have no control over the situation and am essentially powerless.
SPH – the size of my cock isn’t something I can do anything about.
Power humiliation – the first time I experienced it was with Iris and it surprised me. It was a cuckold call, and Iris (damn I miss her) asked me what was going on in my head because she could tell I wasn’t getting into it. I told her the truth, that I was having feelings of jealousy, why should he be rewarded with fucking her when I had been the one that did everything for her? She then slapped my face with his cock which was extremely humiliating and erotic at the same time – and I think why it was so erotic was because it took away any sense of control I had in the scenario, she showed me her control by humiliating me in front of him and that was very erotic to me.
Another humiliation fantasy I have – being a coerced sissy that is straight but is required to put on a humiliating sissy lipstick lesbian show with another feminized sissy who is straight.
It’s strange because it borders into the gray area of consent, being required to act out sexually with someone I am not sexually attracted to, but it also is an extremely hot fantasy because of the complete loss of control even over my own sexuality.
With the lipstick lesbian fantasy, I won’t lie – I like watching actual lesbian porn that is filmed for the benefit of men often with women who aren’t really as lesbian as they are pretending to be – and I wonder if sometimes the coerced sissies performing as lesbians for the enjoyment of women is some weird kind of self psychological justification.
Another humiliation fantasy I have is Violet using me as a prop to teach a young (but adult obviously) up and coming domme how to properly milk the prostrate. For some reason unknown to me, it is always Violet doing the teaching when I have that fantasy, I think it is because there was a call with Violet where she and I opened up to each other about something that gives me comfort with her having that kind of control over my body.
But the common thread in my humiliation fantasies is that I have absolutely no control over the scenario, I am powerless.
This I think is in contrast to some humiliation fantasies.
A woman not too long ago posted pictures of her naked body on a social media site. She was obese, and asked people to say humiliating things about her and even share her pictures. None of the poses were overtly crude or sexual in nature.
I was not attracted to her sexually but to me her pictures were extremely beautiful, making it impossible to meet her needs (I generally find the naked human body to be extremely beautiful) but I suspect her humiliation fantasies are different type than mine.
Fight, flight, or (fist)fuck – I think I know which one of those buckets I fall into.
So, are you saying you have an adversarial relationship to your dick? Stop punching you penis, fisty! That’s gonna leave a bruise.
Haha, Ms. Harper – of course I’m choosing Door #3 – after all, it’s right there in the handle…
…I do like how you’re working on finding all the humiliation posts.
and Door #3 seems appropo to you. Lol
Did you comment for the Scavenger Hunt? If you did, I see you! Fisty, Doubletee, Alice, Rod, Amber and William. Well done!
I found this one for the hunt!