Are you gay or do you have a cocksucking fetish?
It’s a tricky question to answer, isn’t it? After all, cocks are attached to men, who are inextricably involved in all facets of having their cocks sucked. It’s a rock solid fact that if you’re going to suck a real cock, you’re going to have to find a real man with said cock for you to suck. So are you gay, or do you just fantasize about sucking cock?
What does it mean to have a cocksucking fetish?
If you’ve got a fetish for sucking cock, then you get turned on by images of, thoughts about, and possibly even everything to do with giving a blowjob. From blowjobs in bad porn to elaborate fantasies centered around getting to suck off the mail clerk in the office washroom, sucking cock turns you on. There’s nothing wrong with being turned on by a nice thick cock to suck on, and in fact it’s pretty common. But what’s the line between having a fetish and being actually gay?
You think you know what being gay is all about? You’re wrong.
Being gay is not all Pride Parades, feather boas and dudes in leather chaps. Well, ok, but that stuff only happens on Pride weekend and anytime there’s a party down at Dirty Hal’s. “Gay” is a label that is self applied. Other people can’t declare you gay, straight, purple or a fan of the Packers. You get to decide if that label applies to you. Gay people seek intimate relationships with people of the same gender presentation as themselves. That’s it. The things gay people do in their relationships are as diverse as what straight people do in their relationships.
So, are you gay or do you have a cocksucking fetish?
Let’s find out…
This is an awesome blog, Ms. Harper…
I have to admit I have had men suck cock, and they are not gay. This is a very interesting topic. I have even had my subby hubby suck cock, and he is so NOT gay. Kind of like I have sex with women (or have in the past) but consider myself “flexible” not even bisexual.
Great food for thought!
Ms. Delia
I get a lot of guys who ask me if they’re gay because they think of sucking cock. I tell them that in reality land, ‘gay’ is only something they can decide for themselves, but that in fantasyland, of course they’re gay for thinking about dicks.
In reality, there is a wide gulf between what gets you off and what you identify as.
Ms Harper ~ I can not tell you how much I love this post! I fully agree “gay” is about a relationship. I have sex with women ~ it’s fun & I like it, but I have interest in a relationship with one. Like Ms Delia I do not even really consider myself bisexual. Sucking cock is hot so I fully understand why so many want to try it. And frankly once they do ~ they always want to do it again! Awesome post!
There’s so much confusion out there about the difference between what you identify as and what gets you off! You are not the sum of your turn-ons. lol! But then again, “I think therefore I am” has some deep effects on our conceptions of identity and self, but mostly because people take that phrase on a surface reading. I think I like cock therefore I am gay is incorrect, as it should be I think I like cock therefore I am turned on by cock.
Ok, don’t get me started on identity and philosophy. I’ll never stop!