Every year, as is traditional, folks decide to set some intentions and resolutions for the coming year, and, as is also traditional, those resolutions often only last a few weeks before tumbling to the wayside. Are you prone to creating grand plans for a changed you, a better life, and even a whole new way of living in the world, only to have your plans crumble to dust in the face of real life? I have some advice for you, and I went over this in detail on my adult sex education podcast Whore School, in episode 237.

Do you have a goal?

Before you can begin to make a resolution or intention, you need a goal. Your intentions and resolutions are in support of your goals! Without a goal, your resolution will fall flat. Think in terms of concrete things you want to accomplish this year. If your goal is health related, phrase it in a positive way. Instead of “I want to lose weight”, try “I want to be healthier”. From your goal, you create your resolution, or an action list of things to do to get to your goal. But, what if you really don’t know what you want out of life?

Setting a goal:

Most goals fall into one of a few categories. There’s physical goals, spiritual goals, career goals, and life path or fulfillment goals. Your body and health, your spirit and mind, your career, and your general life path, are all areas that you can create goals within. Where do you feel as though you’re not living up to your potential? In what ways do you think you could be better? Those are prime areas to delve for good goal material. Your goal is as individual as you are! It’s ok if your goals are niche and hyper specific to your life, because they’re about your life!

Break that goal down into steps!

This is where your intentions and resolutions come into play. Once you’ve got your goal, break it down into steps. Your resolutions are the specific actions that you will be taking in order to reach your goal, while your intentions are guiding principles that you set each week to help keep you on track to your goal. The intention focuses your attention on a daily or weekly basis, the resolution is the action you’re taking, and the goal is what all that work is for!

Need help setting intentions and resolutions in support of your goals?

Hey, I’m a kinky life coach, so there’s no one better to help you with your intentions and resolutions and goals! Even if your goals are kinky, pervy, and dirty, that’s perfectly ok by me, because everyone’s goals and life are different and deserve support. Want to transition? Come out as a sissy cock slut to your wife? Desire greater skills with makeup or dressing, or want to learn how to make and sell your own hand braided whips and rope toys? No matter what your goal is, I want you to reach it, and your intentions and resolutions are key to it all!

Welcome in 2021 with some robust goals, and the framework to achieve those goals!

I believe in you, and I believe that we can make this year better than the years before it. The arc of justice and all that, but, we have a lever and can bend that arc even further towards what is good, and right, and wonderful. What are your goals for this year? Leave a comment, and share your intentions with the world!

Your Life Coach, Harper