It’s that time of year again, isn’t it. Every year, we roll around to the end of the calendar and are faced with the existential questions about who we are, how was our previous year, and what will we do in the new year, and for many people, that’s an incredibly stressful set of things to contemplate. So, when you’re faced with the perennial question “who will you be in the new year?”, you can buckle down and contemplate, or you can embrace the cyclical nature of existence and recognize that a calendar date is a horrible thing to inflict on yourself as a philosophical and spiritual deadline.
Who will you be in the new year?
The answer is very simple: you’ll be yourself, obviously. Beyond that, you can be whoever you want to be. And that is the much harder thing to contemplate, isn’t it? Who do you want to be, and what sort of life do you want for yourself? The path towards happiness is complex, and hard to find, when we’re spending so much of our time and lives pretending desperately to be someone we’re not. So, my advice is to find those areas of your life where you have to be extra not the real you, and decide if you want to keep on doing that. Do you have to work a customer facing job, but kinda hate interacting with strangers all day long? Maybe a job change will be good for you. Perhaps you yearn to be a forest ranger, but are stuck behind a desk, or maybe you want to try drag, but are worried what people will think about you. Some changes will require that you work a little harder to make them real in your life, but others…
Ask yourself if there’s another job you’d rather do, and then go apply for that. If a total lifestyle change is what you need, how can you make that happen, either all at once (tricky, destructive to your other relationships, drastic) or a bit at a time. And if what you’re wanting is to explore your sexuality, gender, or kinky side, to what degree you dive in can really ameliorate a lot of the destructive effects of that exploration. Let’s be real, revealing to your wife that you’re, surprise, a trans woman with a boyfriend on the side can cause that marriage to implode. But, letting her know that you’re exploring your masculinity and embracing a less toxic mindset can be met with approval and support! It’s in how you phrase things, and also how you move towards those life changes that can influence whether your loved ones think you’ve lost your mind, or if they support you as you move forward.
If you’re wondering who you want to be in the new year, give me a call.
Sometimes all you need is an outside perspective to put things into a clearer state for you. Someone like myself, who knows about a lot of sexuality and gender issues, and is a life coach to boot, can really help you put your mental and emotional landscape, and your plans for the future, into order. Breaking down large life changes into smaller pieces can help turn an intimidating and overwhelming emotional mess into a step by step plan to follow, that will lead you towards happiness and fulfillment. No matter what your goal is, from sissy training, to full transition, to learning how to suck a cock, sometimes what you need is someone to metaphorically hold your hand and help you move from step to step.
So: who will you be?
I’m so excited to find out who you want to be, and what your goals are! And I’m really excited to help you make those big changes, or small changes that add up over time, so you can be the best you you can possibly be! Check out this for a peek at some inspirational words from my two favorite cartoonists!
Your New Year Life Coach, Mistress Harper
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