When I talk about Erotic Humiliation, I don’t want to leave you with the impression that it’s all mean and cruel jabs at your shortcomings. I love sensual humiliation!
In point of fact, I tend towards a far more sweetly sensual form of humiliation, rather than the Mean Mistress who yells and cruelly points out all the ways you are deeply flawed and pathetic. To have someone point out all your mistakes and all the ways you fail to measure up, but to do so in a kind and forgiving tone, can be more painfully embarrassing than just being yelled at. When I point out that it’s not your fault you can’t satisfy me, you were just born pathetically under-endowed, it’s worse in some ways than merely being shunted to one side to make way for my Lover.
There’s a time and a place to be the Mean Mistress, but by far I prefer to be the sweetly Sensual Mistress.
Erotic Humiliation isn’t all screaming about how short your dick is; I could point out that you’ve got a fat, weird looking tongue, so you don’t even get to have the privilege of licking me clean after my Lover has had his orgasm. No cream pie for you, because your mouth is as unlovely and inadequate as well as the rest of you. Or I could point out all the ways in which your personality is flawed: you can’t cook, your cleaning skills are sub-par, and you create no art in the world. If you are a total Zero of a human being, what makes you think you’d ever get to touch me, much less be permitted to stroke that pathetic dick to orgasm in my presence?
Sensual Humiliation takes a lot of different forms.
If you squirm over something that seems to you to be a really weird thing to get turned on by, don’t even worry about it. I like that you squirm, and that you get turned on. Show me how humiliated you are by something strange or insignificant about yourself, and I’ll coo and agree with you that it’s just too sad and pathetic. Sensual Humiliation is right up my alley. Is it up your alley too?
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Ah yes Harper,Humiliation that is sweet and delicate is more powerful than loud or forceful ovatures….sort of like the scene in The Wizard of Oz when the wicked witch with a soothing coy rubs her crystal ball and encourages her prey to fall helplessly asleep in a field of poppies.
“There’s a time and a place to be the Mean Mistress, but by far I prefer to be the sweetly Sensual Mistress.”
Harper, I have a confession. Until recently, I never really had a specific fantasy that brought you to my mind. That changed when you started doing the Whore School.
When it comes to sexual interactions, let’s just say I am not very experienced. In my 40s now that makes it very difficult, women expect someone my age to know all the moves and what to do and take it as a sign there is something wrong with me when I don’t. I’ve been told that, by women. Honesty can sometimes be emotionally cruel, I hope they weren’t intentionally being cruel.
I have this fantasy where I an in your friend zone, am happy to be in your friend zone, but keeping that in mind you have compassion for my lack of experience and teach me the steps to being sensual with a woman.
I guess I’m projecting you into what I wish there was a woman in my life to actually do for me, going to Nevada where they advertise that service wouldn’t work because I would have to feel comfortable with the woman.
While I suppose its a bit off topic, it use to be humiliating to feel like I need to be taught but lately I just see it as a state of being and not something to be humiliated about – but that sentence of yours brought it to mind.
Where some women are cruel about my lack of experience, I know you wouldn’t be.
Aw, you know I’d take you in hand and guide you towards being the sensual lover you wish you could be. Lessons would include picking out clothes for a date, getting the perfect bouquet of flowers, and how to slickly make your move and seduce her.
xoxo
Sensual humiliation is so much hotter than aggressive humiliation!
There’s a time and a place for the mean stuff (you should see what I do to mouthbreathers who catcall at me on the streets!) but I’m usually super sweet. And kind. 😉
Sounds like You’re putting a new spin on the phrase, “killing us w/ kindness”, Ms. Harper. I can dig it…
I like to think of it as the Fugees version… “strumming my (your!) pain with his (my!) fingers…”
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Found this one too!