Mistress Harper will lock you in a chastity device. (800)356-6169I was deeply honored to attend a collaring ceremony this weekend.

A dear friend of mine, and fellow Mistress, decided to give her favorite slave a lasting symbol of his place in her life. I get a lot of guys who are interested in the idea of chastity, but I don’t know that they’d be as into the concept if they faced what my friend’s slave is facing. You see, she, like many Mistresses, feels that a male’s energy and attention are best focused through abstinence.

Chastity for males is either a lack of orgasm or a lack of both orgasm and arousal.

My friend and her slave have been practicing chastity in various forms for a few years now, so they’ve had plenty of time to work out which kind of chastity works best for them. It turns out that for that particular male slave, even the slightest arousal distracts him from properly serving his Mistress. No edging, no tease and then denial… full and total chastity is the only method that works to focus his attention on his Mistress.

As a symbol of his dedication to his Mistress, and her commitment to him in return, they had a ceremony this weekend.

Where the rest of the world would see a marriage, with happy bride and nervous groom, for those of us in the ‘know’, we saw a commitment ceremony that put the finishing touches on what happened the night before. In the darkened room of an anonymous hotel, he knelt before her, naked and exposed. His hands clasped behind him, thighs spread, he waited for her touch. She took a knee before him, and reached out, to lock the chastity device in place. A tiny gold lock, the key on a chain around her neck, and it was done. A truly touching moment, the seal on his obedience, attention, energy and total chastity; I’m not ashamed to say I teared up a bit. (So did he…)

So what do you think?

Could you take the plunge and commit yourself to total chastity like that? For me?

xoxo, Harper