Harper knows you. 800 356 6169So, it’s summer, and it’s hot as heck.

I bet all the sissies are just dying to cool off and have a little fun at the beach. Or the pool, or the gym, or… well, there are all sorts of perfect summer destinations for sweet sissies to explore. The trick is finding a place to have your fun just your way. You know you want to get all dressed up, dolled up, and display your sissy assets to their best advantage. The question is: where?

In a lot of ways our culture has become much more accepting and understanding about sissies.

Look at Laverne Cox! On the cover of Time Magazine, actress on an acclaimed Netflix show (Orange is the New Black, seriously, you should be watching this!) There is so much more acceptance now for differently gendered folks, for people who enjoy exploring gender expression and for trans folk.

But, in many ways, our culture still has some trouble accepting gender play.

For sissies and trans folk, if you don’t fully ‘pass’ as the gender you’re expressing, you can get some pushback from people in public spaces. That truly sucks, as I believe there is no one way to be a female, or a male. But if you’re going to go out and try to keep cool in the heat, you have to keep that possible pushback in mind.

For those who want to explore gender play and keep cool, I have some tips.

If you’re super shy and want to be really discrete, I recommend hosting your own garden party, invite only! Make sure to have iced drinks, lounging chairs and maybe even a pool or sprinkler set up. Do mani-pedi’s for all the girls, have rocking summer jams on the stereo and a dress code that requires bikinis.

For the more adventurous, check out your local beaches and lakes for some summer fun. A little work with google can tell you exactly how busy any given stretch of water front is, so you can select your party location with your own comfort in mind.

You could choose to keep your cool without stepping out into the sun by planning a fun trip to the spa! Have your feet pampered by professionals, get tiny little flowers painted onto your toes, and be rubbed, moisturized and destressed in soothing comfort. Go with friends and have daiquiris with your mainicures!

However you choose to keep cool this summer, I hope you remember one thing:

Have no shame, darlings. The degree of interaction you have with the outside world is up to you, and stay within your comfort zone, always. But, no shame within that zone! Take note, I have not and will never tell you to change your gender expression for anyone other than yourself. Want to get dressed up, sexy and hot, and go to a bar? Rock it. Want to wear panties and stay home? Awesome. Just so long as you’re having fun, it’s all good.

Stay cool, sissy sweethearts!

And stay sexy!

xoxo, Harper