Tell me what you need.
If you want to catch and keep the fickle attention of your Mistress, you’re going to need to pull out all the stops.
Let’s face it: your Mistress is a busy woman with a lot of demands on her time and energy. Throngs of worshipful submissives flock around us pleading for just a little discipline, a touch, one suggestion about how to stroke that cock just right. If you want to stand out from the crowd and get your Mistress’s attention, you need to up your game and do what it takes to stand out from everyone else.
Number Five on the list: Be respectful towards your Mistress.
Nothing is more of a buzzkill and turn off than a disrespectful man trying to convince me that he’s the shit. It ought to be common, and yet, respect towards women in general and your Mistress in particular is rare and unusual. I’m not talking about kowtowing, but just being a respectful person: don’t interrupt us when we’re speaking, don’t mansplain at us, and don’t contradict us. Simple!
Be impeccable with your word to your Mistress is the fourth tip for getting your Mistress’ attention.
You would not believe how many desperate submissives I have to deal with who just can’t seem to keep their word or tell the truth! When I give you an order, and you say “yes Mistress”, I want to rest assured that you’re going to actually obey me. If I tell you to use condoms when you suck strange cocks, I expect you to use a fucking condom when you suck a dick for me, not to ‘forget’ and expose my slave to all sorts of diseases and pubic bugs. And if I ask you if you’ve ever been on your knees before, and you assure me you’re not a slut, trust that word will get around to me eventually about how much of a cock slut you really are.
You’d think this one was a no-brainer, and yet it’s made the list because far too many people forget all about this vital tip for keeping your Mistress happy: BATHE.
Personal hygiene is fucking vital to keep me happy with you. If you smell like a mixture of old spunk and nervous sweat, I’m going to be way over on the other side of the room avoiding you. You want to stand out from the crowd and get my attention at a party? Groom yourself. Take a nice shower, attend to the calluses on your feet, trim your nails, and maybe even put on some nice cologne.
Number Two in the Top Five Tips for Attracting a Mistress is to know your needs and limits.
Let’s say you’re looking for a Mistress, and all you know about yourself is that you’ve got a burning desire to do something perverted and a deep well of information straight from a steady stream of Kink Corp’s best porn. So you walk up to me at a party, and you stare at my tits and breathe heavily, and then offer to submit to me. When I ask you what your limits and boundaries are, I expect you to answer me, and when I ask you how you feel about bondage, impact play, and sounding, I want you to tell me literally anything other than “huh? what’s that?” Have an idea of what you want, what sort of scene, and how far you’re willing to go, BEFORE you walk up to a Mistress and ask to play.
And the number One tip for how to get and keep a Mistress’ attention?
Above all else, just remember: don’t be a dick.
I pay attention to how the people around me act towards each other. If I see you mocking someone, laughing at instead of with people, walking through other people’s scenes, being disruptive at parties and workshops, and just generally being a dickhead? I’m not going to be super impressed with you, and will, in fact, fucking ignore you like a buzzing gnat should you try to get me to look at you twice.
Bonus advice: Bribery works.
Let’s be real here, gifts and bribery are always a good step. Bring me a new toy, a bottle of wine, some chocolate, take me out to dinner, get me something from my wishlist… Guaranteed attention grabbers, and excellent ways to convince me to give you a second chance, should you have trespassed any of the top five tips. Beware, however, of being too obsequious, or of assuming that a gift equals an assurance of attention: you can bribe me, but all that bribe gets you is a limited window of opportunity to apologize for your past behavior. That said, if you’re one of my favorites, and you give me a present, I do reciprocate.
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