So you want to really pamper your Mistress.

I understand the need, really I do. After all, the main thrust of what I do here is to get deeply inside the heads of my submissives so that I can anticipate and meet their needs. And sometimes, what you need is an outlet for the Love Languages. Oh, what are the Five Love Languages? They are Physical Touch, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, and Gifts. Obviously, when you care about someone you want to spend time with them, touch them, tell them how you feel, do nice things for them, and get them presents. For a lot of people, that last one can feel too close to bribery, or paying a person to like them, and that’s tragic. All five love languages exist in all people to one degree or another, and it’s important to recognize and accept the expression of caring and intimacy that your loved ones (and yourself!) offer to you.

When you get emotionally intimate with your Mistress, it makes sense that you’d be moved to express that closeness through pampering, service, words, and gifts.

Here are my personal top three ways to pamper your Mistress:

1. I feel most pampered when you tell me how devoted you are to me; I love hearing Words of Affirmation. I want to hear it in your voice,  want to be able to soak up all your expressions of adoration and worship. Tell me you’re mine, worship your femdom!
2. Given that Physical Touch is going to be impossible for you to give to me, I’ll take Acts of Service instead! I adore a service sumbissive. I want you to pay for a massage at a day spa. Cover the cost of me going to get my nails done, and a pedicure! I’ll be imagining that it’s you doing these lovely acts for me, instead of the person being paid in your place. Serve me as if you were mine.
3. Pamper me like a Queen. I have a wishlist on Amazon, and I swear, every time I get a box in the mail I just light up. I love getting tokens of your affection. I never check the ‘bought’ tab, just because I love surprises that much! Give me gifts to show your need to pamper your Mistress!

Everyone has different priorities when it comes to receiving and giving tokens of affection.

I like to give Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, and Physical Touch. In my mind, Gifts and Acts of Service can be related: where I lack the skill needed to serve my loved ones, I’m perfectly willing to make a gift of skilled service by another person. You can see that what I like to give, and what I like to get are not exactly the same! It’s true for most people, and you are likely no different. Do a little research into the Love Languages, and find out what your ideal communication style is!