As you know, I am involved in the kinky fetish world.
I’ve been going to kinky play parties for years, I travel to other cities to attend events, and I even go to fetish conventions for fun! I’m a kinky pervert from way back, and proud of it. I’ve got lots of real world experience with kinky games and sex, and, until I started working over the phone, I had a habit of keeping that part of myself separate from the rest of my life.
I used to go to work and pretty constantly self-censor.
I’d see a man holding his wife’s purse, waiting for her to try on clothes, and bite my tongue on what I wanted to say. Or he’d make a suggestion and be brushed off. A man on the street, walking behind and to one side of his female companion, or holding the door for her and her friends… The fella at the grocery store buying tampons, nylon hose and a silicone spatula would nearly make me loose my cool. So many opportunities to poke or tease or wind people up, and I was hiding! Hiding my fabulous kinky self and pretending to be ‘normal’ in public.
Well, thank goodness for phone sex!
No more hiding for me. All those things I couldn’t say because I wanted to keep my job? HA! Now I quietly murmur “good boy” as I pass the embarrassed man holding the purse, and smile when he wriggles. And fellas? Those glass mufflers you like to put on your cars and bikes? Well. I now serenade my friends with a little ditty I made up about those obvious attempts to overcome your shortcomings.
What’s it like to be with a lifestyle Mistress in public?
Well, I call it like I see it, comment on people’s power dynamics and call men ‘good boy’ or ‘naughty cur’ as the case warrants. I take no shit from anyone, and dish out my own special brand of female superiority to all and sundry. I absolutely love my life, and wouldn’t change it for anything, or anyone!
This, I might add Ms. Harper is why I have always loved hanging out with You!! XOXOXOXO Simone
Miss Harper, did you go to Domcon this year? I’ve never been. It seems like a convention you would mark on your calendar each year. If so, and you have stories about it, would you consider sharing in another blog post?
Men need to practice semen retenion.Doing so allows their masculine energy to grow.Only in this state can he truely recognize feminine power and yield to it.I havent ejaculated in three weeks,and could spent an afternoon holding doors for ladies as i salute their gorgeous bottoms
Dear Miss Harper,
Your blog post really spoke to me. I have never been especially moved so much by the “fantasy” or “role play” ideas behind much of female dominance. I know some are and of course that is fine. For me it is more real and much deeper than that. I have been around “those women” in public or in private who are simply more “in charge” than I am. I don’t think that all women truly understand the power that they have – maybe some do. To me it is much more powerful when it is real vs. “pretend” – if that makes sense. It is weird to me how it can feel “exciting” to do a chore for a woman or to be “directed” etc. – it’s not fantasy it’s real. Also, as you say – there is something so powerful when a woman “domineers” publicly – having you (literally) hold her purse or run to the store for her or stand by quietly while she chats with friends. As well the woman who overtly mentions her sense of your “shortcomings” out loud to in social situations or to a girlfriend. I wonder how often women notice this “power” and how often they do not.