So, you think you want to have a girlfriend experience with me?
Ok, first up, you need to know the ground rules. I will make use of people who identify as male for sex, when I feel like it, but I only date romantically people who identify as women. So if you want to date me, you’d best be a woman. I prefer women who are well put together, who know how to tie their hair back and get into the garden and get messy, but can also dress up to go watch a little light opera with me. If you can’t apply lipstick without making a mess, that’s fine, but, you need to have the skills to own up to your lack of skill and be capable of asking nicely for help. So, still want the girlfriend experience?
Brace yourselves:
I follow the Campground Rule. In any relationship, I try to leave the person just a little bit better off than they were before they dated me. This doesn’t mean I’m looking for people to “fix”, dear me no. It means if you have a goal, I’m happy to help you and support you towards meeting your goal. If you don’t have a goal, I’ll encourage you to set one. I’ll drive you to your therapy appointments and hold you afterwards, and I’ll help you up your wardrobe, hair, and makeup game, if you’re into that. A girlfriend experience with me involves being radically supported, seen, and cherished, and some people can’t handle that.
In addition to my ground rules, there’s some basic expectations I have in relationships, too.
I expect you to be emotionally mature, with a certain level of emotional skills. You need to be able to take criticism without falling apart or needing your hand held. When you get jealous, you need to be able to deal with your own emotions all on your lonesome without making your jealousy into my problem. I am aggressively poly, which means I date and have intimate sexual relationships with multiple people, and if you can’t deal with that you can see yourself out.
When I get someone who wants the Girlfriend Experience with Harper…
Well, for those who call in wanting a traditional GFE or girlfriend experience, what they usually want is for me to pretend to be straight and monogamous for them. I find that particular role hard to play, because it’s just so very not me. I can be sensual, or mean, or humiliate you all day long. I can let you peek from a closet while I fuck another man, or tie you to a chair and tease your cock. But pretending to be your girlfriend? Only come at me with that fantasy if you can meet my base expectations. Otherwise, it’s gonna have to be a no.
The idea that most men have when they think of GFE or cuckolding is very degrading to women. Their fantasy girl is also this mindless fetish dispenser that will do whatever they want them to do. It’s fair to say that if you can’t meet Harper’s requirements, she’s going to enjoy breaking your mind, and humiliating you for asking. She does so in such a way, that will make you think twice about asking for GFE, or any of your other women degrading fantasies.
YES!
that’s it. and if that’s how most men treat their actual girlfriends… ladies, y’all can do a whole lot better. come to the bi side and let me show you how you deserve to be treated. 😉
and guys? you need to bring your A game, because this weak sauce is not flavorful.
I think I want this, and can handle most of the ground rules, except despite my crossdressing tendencies, I still identify as male. I love to be challenged to be better change and try new things, curious since we’ve gotten to know eachother somewhat where you think I fall?
well, since you still identify as a man instead of as a woman, you’d be fun to play with in all sorts of ways, but I don’t think you’d match up quite perfectly as my ideal girlfriend… lol
Harper, as you’ve seen, dress me up and the identity doesn’t become quite so black and white, excuse me pink and blue, lot more purple leaning pink.
A GFE? Are you talking fantasy? Or reality?
Yes!
FUCKING AWESOME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When I first started doing phone sex, I treated the guys like I would a boyfriend or girlfriend and gave the “leniency” that is inherent in a face to face relationship. That didn’t work. What works in this arena is very clear boundaries and communication.
Most of my callers have a delightful mix of GFE and kink — I have people that call just to talk baseball and then later in the call we get into the yum yum! The boundaries and clear communication are what allow me to get close to people in a real and honest way.
Sometimes a caller says GFE or vanilla but actually want to be a Dom and me to play or be the sub. I gently but firmly say, nope not my thing. At that point, I expect him to hear me. If he doesn’t we’ll have another conversation and maybe one more.
Boundary pushers bore me. Irritating people are .. well … irritating.
Life is too short for that nonsense!
I love getting to just chat with people, that’s one of the best part of this sort of intimacy. 😉 And yes, a lot of people confuse “GFE” with “male dom female sumbissive”, and it’s just not gonna fly for me at all. 😉
I totally agree with Harper on this issue. At this time i am in process of making a name change.
Congrats! I’m pumped for you!
After some consideration & after further review & thought. I have changed my from AprilsissyNicole to Shirley April Tucker.
It’s a pleasure to meet you, Shirley. Welcome to life as an out and proud woman!
Just remember, transition is a process, and it takes time and effort. But you can do it! Go forth and be the woman of your dreams!
Comment Thank you.I choose my new name because of Harper and Erica Enchantrix.The tucker for a person who tucks? on one broadcasts i heard this & Shirley with joking With Erica about Leslie Nielson movie pilot says shurly i can .Leslie Nielson says please don’t call me Shirley. I named the April from the first month i went out 16 yrs ago
Love that, good name but it means something to you! Nice to meet you Shirley April Tucker! Now grab life by the horns and own it sounds like you got some great support from Erika and Harper!
I was booted two more times from Twitter. Had made up new names.The last one was Cheryl Shirley Tucker. The last was going good until i had gotten into a disagreement with someone the topic of dispute was about Bulls.