I’ve talked before about the line between fantasy and reality as regards cock sucking, but today, we’re going to go after another fun fantasy: Feminization.
The fantasy of being feminized is actually a rather common one in the phone sex world. Now, it may not be all that ‘common’ in so-called mainstream porn, and it definitely doesn’t show up much in the mainstream media, but I think that’s more to do with societal pressure than with how prevalent the fantasy actually is. I’m not going to go into the psycho sexual theory behind feminization for men, other than to say it’s super interesting and very up my alley; what I am going to talk about is how to move from a fantasy of being femme to the reality of femaleness.
The move from fantasy to reality can be fraught with insecurity and uncertainty.
One of the first things you should take into account when deciding to move from a fantasy of being a girl to the reality of going out dressed en femme is your own state of mind. Gender play, genderbending and crossdressing are all things that are tons of fun. However, playing these games can lead to some not-so-fun consequences. If you’re feeling fragile over the idea of dressing and going public, you should be aware that negative feedback from the people around you can knock you for a loop, psychologically speaking. Take care not to expose yourself to too much scaring, damaging interactions!
What I’m saying here is pick your audience carefully!
When you dress up all sexy, slutty, girly or cute, pick who you show that look off to with great care. A super venue for showing off your look is your local gay bars drag night. I know, you’re not going for gay guys, you’re not looking for a hookup, you just want to have fun! But, your first night out as a girl? Go where the other girls go. Get to know your community, build yourself a posse, and work on your confidence and moves before you decide to go to the local kicker bar for a beer and some line dancing.
Disclaimer for those from more liberal areas:
It’s entirely possible that my advice is erring on the side of caution. I remind you all, I live in Texas, one of the most homophobic, conservative, and, well, intolerant states in the US. When I tell you to choose your venue, I’m thinking of my local area and the inhabitants likely reaction to a lovely sissy showing up. Think like a girl, girls: Put your own personal safety above everything else. If your instincts are telling you it’s a dangerous scene, slip out of those heels and get ready to GTFO.
And, after you go out dancing all night long, flirting and having tons of fun, call Me!
I want to share in your joy and bliss. 😉
Next up in the reality/fantasy series: Anal play. You know you’re intrigued…
What amazing advice Mistress Harper!!
I am from Texas so I know exactly what you are talking about. Currently I live in Chicago so it’s not as dangerous for a slutty sissy like me to go out all dressed up but it still can be a terrifying yet exciting endeavor. I have yet to walk out of the house looking like a slut. Hopefully one day I will build up the courage(and the wardrobe) to successfully overcome my fears. Thanks again for your blog and all of your sexy thoughts and ideas and wisdoms. Xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Trixie
I’m glad you like my advice, Trixie! 😉 I love knowing I’m helpful, in some way or another.
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I think that’s really sage advice to air on the side of caution.
Maybe it’s just me but people in general seem more impulsive, unpredictable and lacking in boundaries when they are out in public these days. Road rage, Flash mob violence etc.
Earlier this spring a baseball fan was beaten into a coma at Dodger Stadium simply because he was wearing a rival Giants jersey. Pretty scary to think that happened at an afternoon baseball game, so your points about being safe when you are out exploring your sexuality are well taken.
This can be a seriously scary and fucked up world. I heartily advocate doing what you love anyway, in the face of that scary fucked-upedness, because how else will we ever change it? But, while changing the world, it’s good to remember that flesh is weak and bones can break, so being as safe as you can in your grasping after bliss is good.
Change the world, just, don’t get too hurt by it while you do it.
Humanity is a beautiful notion, to bad humans have to fuck it up.
so very true, sextoy.
But just as there are the depths we sink to, there are also heights! I mean, look at the Renaissance, all that art… Chopin and Copeland and the efforts to help out Haiti after the earthquack, and to feed kids in Somalia.
Let me see if I can recall the quote… we are where the rising ape meets the falling angel.
Grape Ape or Magilla Gorilla?
Lock up your slave and don’t let anyone touch him for a year.
maybe no one including you. or maybe only you touch him. he’ll be desperate.
Desperation is a good look on a man.