After last week’s foray into some admittedly extreme kinks and fetishes, I wanted to take a moment and explore the topic from a less erotic and more thoughtful point of view. I know that not everyone is interested in, or aroused by the extreme end of the scale when it comes to games we can play with your cock, but it’s also not nearly as uncommon or abnormal as you may think! As with a lot of things that are more ‘fringe’ or taboo, when it comes to extreme sexual acts, what we don’t talk about becomes hidden, secretive, and then you wind up with everyone thinking they’re the only person in the world who likes that stuff!

Are you interested in extreme kinks and fetishes?

Everyone has a certain level at which they say ‘no, that’s too far’; what’s extreme to you may be boring to me! Or perhaps you’re into something that would make me shake my head and back away, too. Much like personal limits, the lines between ‘extreme’ and ‘Friday night fun’ varies from person to person. There are a few things that do tend to get universally labeled as extreme kinks and fetishes; cock and ball torture, ball busting, medical kinks and play, messy games, and then the entire list of things which we don’t do here because they’re outside our TOS. You know, that stuff.

Think of it like skydiving, or rollercoasters

Not everyone wants to go jump out of a perfectly operational airplane, and some folks can only ride a rollercoaster with their eyes shut. (It’s me, both of those would be me.) And some people would not enjoy squeezing your nuts until you squeak. The world is wide and diverse, and everyone gets to be into different things. But, just like extreme sports enthusiasts, those who do enjoy having their dicks tortured or the threat of medical experimentation are enjoying the same rush and flood of endorphins that those wacky skydivers are feeling! Whatever form the extreme activity takes, we’re all just playing games with our own brain biochemistry.

The limbic system in our brains is the heart of every experience of arousal you ever have or will experience.

And I do mean for you to take ‘arousal’ as widely interpreted as possible. Remember that your hippocampus is in charge of the neurochemistry responsible for our fight, flight, fawn, and fuck responses. Every time you lose your temper, watch a scary movie or walk through a haunted house, have a close call on the highway, or get turned on, you are using the limbic system’s responses to prepare your body for various extreme situations. The response is the same, no matter what the situation is, increased blood pressure and blood flow to your extremities, heightened awareness and mental acuity, and even an increased ability to withstand sensations like heat and pain! Whether you’re getting ready to get laid, fight a prize fight, or pull the cord on your parachute, your brain is doing the same things (maybe to slightly different degrees.)

People enjoy extreme activities because of the way they make us feel!

Why do people jump out of an airplane? Because the endorphin rush feels amazing. Why do people let me squeeze their nuts into a figurative paste? Because the endorphin rush feels amazing! Imagined pain works on our brains the same way that actual pain does, and so does fear or anticipation. The thought of being put through extreme CBT can be as arousing as the reality of it. Your body’s response to extreme situations involves a massive dump of serotonin and dopamine in preparation for experiencing pain or arousal, no matter what triggered the response! Scary stories and movies work the same way, because to our limbic systems, it does not matter if the scary situation is real or not. Put us in what we perceive to be an extreme situation, and our brains respond in the same way: brace for incoming stimuli and prepare to deal with shock and injury. And that means endorphins ahoy!

Want to explore a little extreme fetish sex?

Extreme kinks and fetishes are excellent for exploration via phone sex. Remember that our brains respond to a scary story (or erotic story) the same way they would if the story were really happening. So, call me up and let’s talk through whatever extreme situation you’re interested in exploring! We can discuss real world safety issues, how to make your kinky exploration less dangerous, and what to expect. I can even help you roleplay out what might happen in your scenario, so you can practice and be prepared should the real deal ever become available to you. I know how to soften most truly extreme kinks into something a little less intimidating and can help guide you and lead you towards an appreciation for the fun we can have when we deliberately mess with your limbic system and brain biochemistry!

Call me, and let’s explore your kinks and fetishes!

Your Extreme Kink and Fetish Mistress, Harper