As you all know, I attend various kinky parties, workshops and events.

I’ve run into a novel problem lately at these parties. I’ve actually had submissive males tell me that I should accept them as play partners and sexual partners just because they ask me to. Now, don’t get me wrong here, the fact that they ask to play kinky games with me is very flattering and quite nice. But…

As with all forms of sexual invitation, just because I’m invited doesn’t mean I’m going to play.

To put it into perspective, I’m not going to suck the cock of every male who catcalls from the window of his car at me, I’m not going to ‘get to know’ the guy who runs the laundromat and I’m not going to tease the cock of every single male subbie at the party. Not going to do it, guys. And, no, you don’t get to come to my house to clean for me, or cook my dinner, or rub my feet.

All of those things you want to do to serve me are reserved to the submissives I choose.

I understand that needing to serve, to be of use, to be treasured and loved and taken care of can build up inside until you feel like you’re going to explode. I get it, baby, I do. All that said, you don’t get to serve me just because you’ve asked for it. You need to earn the right to serve.

Earn the right to serve me.

Put in the time and effort, get to know me, find out what I like to do best and offer that up. Be polite and respectful, and take ‘not now’ as your answer. I will want to play with you, eventually, because I like pretty much everyone. But badgering me to be your personal sex mistress when what I really want is for you to be a footstool for me? Or asking me to edge you again and again when I’m in the mood for a nice spanking and maybe having my toes licked? Counter-productive, sweetheart.

You want to serve me. You must earn that right.

You can do it, I know you can. You just need to be shown how to serve me best, how to approach me, how to impress me. You’ll get there, and then you’ll be mine.

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