I’ve mentioned before that I am a rather sadistic Mistress.
But I think that gets buried, sometimes, under my soft and sweet side. You see, for the most part, I’m a well socialized sadist: I know how to behave in public. I know it’s not right to laugh at people in pain, it’s not polite to find amusement in your suffering, and it’s definitely not ok to be so turned on by your tears. It’s called ‘dacryphilia’, and I most definitely have it.
For a sadistic Mistress, dacryphilia works with my love of your pain.
I’m a sadistic Mistress and I have the fetish dacryphilia. I get off on your tears. Whether those are tears of frustration, pain, cuckold humiliation, or something more, those glistening tears caught in your lashes are precious and perfect for me. You see, I don’t necessarily have to physically hurt you to meet my needs! I can humiliate you and wound your heart. I can drive you to the edge of orgasm over and over and give you pain through pleasure. There are so many ways to make you cry for me.
One of my favorite ways to be a sadistic Mistress is to be very sweet and kind while doing unspeakably cruel things.
How much more painful is it to be denied, when your sadistic Mistress coos over you, and pets you, and tells you you’re so good for Her? How much more does it sting, when I utter the most cutting and cruel phrases, in the kindest and most compassionate tones? When I use cold hard logic to break you down and render you broken and sad, and yet commiserate with you about your pain…
If you’re looking for a sadistic Mistress with a side of cruel kindness, you’re in the right place.
Just don’t come to me looking for a bitchy mean Mistress… Sadistic Mistress, yes. To get to the bitchy side of me you have to actually piss me off, and darling, you’re far too insignificant in the long run for me to get upset over. You silly thing, did you think you could make me mad at you? Now sit down and edge for me. I think a thousand edges will do, to make up for your shortcomings.
Harper, you just described a form of mind fucking that has been an interest of mine for years. Everything you wrote in this blog post is exactly inline with my thoughts on the topic.
Thank you Mike, I’m glad you agree with my premise. You don’t have to be overtly mean to be sadistic. The kindest words can cut the deepest, and bring the most satisfaction.
My, my, what an interesting read! I certainly learned something about you that I didn’t know before. Though I must say I always suspected a bit of a wicked streak about you. I suppose that is a trait we both share. I think to bring a sub to any extreme of the pleasure spectrum is a thing of beauty. Whether it’s laughter or tears, it’s the intensity of the moment that brings about such enjoyment in submissive training.
Oh, Ms Harper, this is delightful! I have begun to embrace this sadistic side of myself, although I haven’t the experience or the terminology that you do. I’m learning, though! Tears, whimpering, begging-they are all an aphrodisiac for me and I adore bringing a caller to his knees for my amusement. Thank you for spelling it out so clearly for all of us-now I can explore even further!
In my life I have found women being sweetly or “warmly” sadistic is somehow way more painful. I don’t know what it is – maybe that they open you up and make you vulnerable that way? I think sometimes truly strong women sometimes are even overtly gentler but can be even crueler. I have sometime had women “just” call me “honey” or “sweetie” or “darling” and on paper is is so nothing but there is a cruel edge to it. It’s subtle but cruel. It’s like somehow she knows or senses how weak you feel.
I do like to hide that edge of cruel sadism with a sweet word and kind smile. 🙂
I think I have dacryphilia too, Ms. Piper. I’m with you when it comes to being sweet AND sadistic! There’s just something about lulling your victim to sleep and then–when he rolls over and shows you his soft underbelly–gently slipping the knife in to the hilt.