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Oral Sex Part Two Techniques and Tips

Now that you’ve got the skinny on how to safely use your mouth for oral sex, let’s move right along and discuss the fun part!

Everyone has their own favorite tips for oral sex, and some of them actually make sense and work. But, sadly, an awful lot of what people advise about going down on a pussy is just stupid. Every magazine aimed at women at one point or another has done an oral sex issue, and the advice for sucking cock you can find in them is just as dumb as the lousy tips for pleasing a pussy! If you want to make your partner very, very happy, there’s a few things you really do need to keep in mind.

oral sex how to 800 601 7259Whether you’re licking a pussy or sucking a cock, when it comes to oral sex just remember this: communicate.

I know, I’m a huge communication person, and you’re probably tired of hearing about it. Seriously! Nothing is sexier than letting your partner know that they can tell you how to please them. Especially for your partner! A lover who wants to please me, is willing to listen when I tell him or her what feels good, and then works to improve their skills is worth their weight in gold. I’m even willing to put up with a lackluster performance if you show willingness to listen and improve! All you have to do is ask “do you like this?” “does this feel good?” “want more?” and when they answer, freaking listen and do what they say.

No matter what you’re doing to please your partner during oral sex, taking your time and being thorough is always a good thing.

Slow down. It’s not a sprint, this is a marathon. You’re going to be down there for a while, so get comfy and be prepared for the long, slow, painstakingly perfectionist attempt to make your partner cum on your face. Nothing is worse than a male who goes down, cursorily licks a couple times, and then pops back up ready for intercourse. No, no, no. You need to be down there at least a half hour, if not more. You want to lick my pussy, you need to be patient and take your time. Hell, if you’re sucking a cock, you’d better not punk out after giving it three licks. It’s not a tootsie pop, three licks will not do the job.

Pussies and cocks both need gentle love and patience.

I swear to god, if you decide to use your teeth in any way on my clit, labia, or inner thigh, I will fucking kick you in the head. And if you bite a cock you deserve what you have coming to you. Be gentle with your partners genitalia. You’ve got a huge bundle of nerves in your mouth, treat it with reverence. If you do feel the need to spank a clit or nibble a thigh, make sure your partner is on board with this plan, because the reflexive kick is a real thing that happens. This leads back to communicate as an oral sex tip, btw. Warn a person before you kick into high gear with the CBT and pussy torture.


 

All About Oral Sex Part One

Let’s talk about oral sex. All about oral sex…

Let’s face it: putting your face on other people’s genitals is a lot of fun. Hell, having other people’s faces up in your junk is fun! There’s very little in life that’s hotter than really good oral sex, and there’s absolutely no reason for you ~not~ to be having all the oral sex ever. That said, it is possible to have bad oral sex, and it’s possible to do stupid things with your mouth and genitals that can lead to loads of regret. That’s why I think sex education really needs to include some advice about oral.

oral sex how to 800 601 7259First things first: All About Oral Sex Safety.

The bad news is that you can indeedy deed transmit and catch STDs and STIs through oral sex. Any contact between mucosal membranes can result in the transfer of disease and illness. Your anus, mouth, and the head of your penis all have mucosal membranes. My vagina has a metric ton of mucosal membranes. All of these, if you have a STD or if your partner has an STD, can make your life more difficult. Luckily, most of the things you’re likely to be exposed to can be cured. (Let’s not talk about the new resistant strain of Gonorrhea that our previous easy cure no longer works for, because, well, actually, let’s do talk about that… later.) Even most of the things we can’t cure, like viral infections, we can ameliorate with anti-viral medications. That said, if you experience anything at all weird with your genitals after unprotected sexual contact, including oral sex, go to your doctor, fess up, and get a diagnosis and medication.

How to protect yourself when sucking a cock:

As for protection for oral sex: when sucking a cock, use a condom. Go for a non-latex, unlubed condom, because lots of folks have latex sensitivities, and  the lube used on most ready to fuck condoms tastes like plastic ass. Don’t bother with a flavored lube, they taste terrible (in general), and if you need to cover up the taste of the penis you’re sucking, don’t suck that dick! Clean dick tastes good, or at worst, like skin. If you can taste anything bitter, bread-like, or otherwise like anything other than skin, don’t suck that cock. Ditto for vaginas.

{Warning for grossness: if you suck a dick with a yeast problem, you can get a yeast infection in your mouth.}

Want to lick pussy and ass? There’s protection for that!

For vaginas and assholes: use a dental dam. Store bought, plastic wrap, or a cut open glove all work fantastically. Put lube on the vagina or ass, then the dental dam, then go to town. If you switch between ass and pussy, change dental dams, because ass to mouth or ass to pussy is a good way to give your partner a super fun infection. (not that fun, really.) If you want to lick your partner’s asshole, the good news is they don’t need to use an enema, as sticking your tongue actually into an anus is a terrible idea, but they do need to wash really well back there first. Or, just use a dental dam.

If you need more information stat, because you just can’t wait to use your mouth on someone, you can listen to Whore School Lesson Twenty: Blowjobs, Cunnilingous, and Oral Sex.

Remember: be safe, but have fun! All About Oral Sex will continue in Part Two, with tips and tricks for good oral.


 

Kinky Sex Scene: Pacing

When you first get started playing with BDSM and kinky sex, it’s easy to run wild.

You get super excited about this new world, and then you run yourself into a wall. Just like any new hobby, it’s easy to mis-judge your stamina and energy, and let your interest drag you along into untenable and unsustainable situations. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen someone brand new to the scene get caught up in their own enthusiasm and wind up signing a slave contract before they even know what they’ve agreed to! Kinky sex can be highly addictive, and if you’re not aware of that up front you can trip on your own wild enthusiasm.

kinky sex 800 356 6169Just like your new kinky sex life can get going too fast and too hard, so too can a single scene.

Remember that in kinky sex and bdsm, any encounter with power exchange elements is called a ‘scene’. Like in acting, a scene begins, has action, and then ends. It is a discrete time and place in which people do stuff. You can say you “live the scene”, and mean that you’re always in a bdsm or kinky sex scene, but in reality there are times and places where outside reality intrudes and the scene comes to a pause at the very least.

If you start a kinky sex scene with a whole lot of enthusiasm and energy, it’s very difficult to maintain such a high level of action. You can, by all means, but remember that you and your partner(s) have limited stamina and energy, and that eventually you will run dry and be too exhausted to continue. Pacing your scene (and your kinky life!) is vital.

Kinky sex scene pacing is a learned skill.

Hell, pacing any life activity is a learned skill! You’ve got to practice self awareness so that you know when it’s time to take a break, and you need to have good boundaries on an interpersonal level to be able to disengage and actually take that break! I’ve found that one of the best metaphors for thinking of the pacing of life, and of kinky sex, is to view the action as a wave. The tide comes in, the tide recedes, the wave always comes back again. In, and out, up and down, your interest and enthusiasm waxes and wanes, and that’s not just ‘ok’, but actually a marker for a healthy life. Learning to go with the flow, to allow tension in the scene to build and then ebb, only to build again, until the tide reaches the high water mark and then flows back to the ocean… it’s tricky to learn, but once you get a feel for it, your sex scenes, and your life, will improve greatly.

Learn to flow with the tides of your sex life, you’ll discover this skill carries over to pretty much every part of your life!

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I’d like to congratulate the winners of the Humiliation Scavenger Hunt! 

Send me an email, I’ll set you up with your ten free minutes. You’ll need to call in to claim your time with me, but once you do that we can connect via phone or Skype. Alice, Fisty, Doubletee! You all got your comments in withing the time limit, so congrats on your free phone sexy times with Moi. Fisty, you also correctly found the odds of winning the stroking game form ye olden ages ago on Tease Mafia, so you also get that ten minute reward. Oooh, Aaah, Fisty’s gonna have fun.


 

Humiliation Scavenger Hunt Roundup!

Did you find all of the Humiliation Scavenger Hunt entries?

humiliation of being vulnerable 800 356 6169I wrote a lot this month about humiliation, and because making you squirm in embarrassment was so on my mind, I decided to make a game of it. Anyone was open to play: all you had to do was find and comment on ALL my posts, across all sorts of LDW Group sites. Did you find all of them? If you didn’t, it’s not too late… As soon as this posts I’ll be checking each link for comments. You’ll have until I reach the end to comment. A last minute sprint, and at the end, you get free phone sex with me!

Let’s start with the easy to find ones, right here on this blog!

I started with Erotic Humiliation: What’s really going on? From there I examined several sub-topics: Semi-Public Humiliation, Sensual Humiliation, Small Penis Humiliation, and of course, the Humiliation of Being Vulnerable. Got all those? I know Doubletee and Fisty were commenting, as well as Alice…

Branching out to the rest of the world wide web of perversion and joy:

Sissy Humiliation for Sissyville, and Cuckold Humiliation as well as Humiliation Tease for TeaseMafia. For May I Cum I asked you to Humble Yourself For Me, and I wrote about the Cuckold Humiliation game for Cuckold Bootcamp. Naturally, I announced the Scavenger Hunt on the Daily Cock.

Did you miss the humiliation blog I wrote for Mistress Sierra?

Tag Team Humiliation can be so much fun. Passing you back and forth between us, watching you squirm and get so humiliated and turned on and increasingly desperate…

And, of course, you’ll need to comment here, as well.

Run along, and leave comments! You’ve got until 11 pm EDT…

 


 

Humiliation of Being Vulnerable

There’s a lot of nuance to erotic humiliation games.

humiliation of being vulnerable 800 356 6169When you’re at your most vulnerable, you’re open to all sorts of situations that can lead to humiliation. The humiliation of being vulnerable is one of the scariest forms of humiliation play. The reason it’s so scary, so terrifying, lies in our socialization and culture: to be vulnerable is to be weak, open to rejection and ridicule, and we’ve all been taught to avoid vulnerability and therefore weakness.

There’s a lot that is humiliating about being vulnerable, especially for males.

This is one of those uniquely gendered humiliation games. Females also feel embarrassed when we’re made to feel vulnerable, but we’ve been taught all our lives about how to deal with that embarrassment and vulnerability. Women are more vulnerable in general than men are, and therefore we deal with it better. Strip a man of his clothes and have him kneel before a fully clothed dominatrix, and it’s likely he’s never felt so very vulnerable before in his entire life. And because males are taught to avoid vulnerability at all costs, he has little to no coping skills to help him deal with his newfound weakness.

When I play erotic humiliation games, I pay attention to the things that make you feel vulnerable.

Is it being naked in front of me? Having me measure your genitalia to see how you compare to ‘average’ males? Confessing all your dirty, perverted fantasies? What is it that awakens that vulnerability in you, that makes you so deeply embarrassed that you can’t even meet my eyes?

Opening up that vulnerable center of yourself is good for you.

By practicing being weak, vulnerable, and defenseless, you learn how to cope. You learn by doing, after all. So let’s help you learn to manage those parts of your life where you are vulnerable, and weak, and utterly, pathetically, defenseless. You’ll learn and have an erotically good time, all at once! And if, in the future, you find yourself feeling vulnerable and then helplessly turned on, well. Good.


 

Small Penis Humiliation Taken to Extreme Lengths

When you’ve got a ridiculously tiny penis, it’s easy to go to extreme lengths when humiliating you.

Truly tiny penises are so ridiculous looking that it’s easy to get carried away with mocking and laughter. I do try to remember to be compassionate towards the lesser endowed, but sometimes my sensual humiliation skills fail . . . → Read More: Small Penis Humiliation Taken to Extreme Lengths


 

Prostate Milking With Mistress Sierra

Professor Sierra Gives a Guest Lecture on Prostate Milking

Hello to all you subbie scholars and sissy students! Today I am going to address a simple question…

Prostate milking: Health regimen or guilty pleasure?

The answer is that it’s both.

Whether you are a seasoned anal expert, or a tentative anal explorer, this . . . → Read More: Prostate Milking With Mistress Sierra


 

Semi-Public Humiliation

One of the fun things about Humiliation play is how we can take our games outside!

Semi-public Humiliation is right up on the list of my favorite ways to humiliate you. It’s hard, though, to walk the line between semi-public and really overt. Remember, I’m a consent junkie, so I never want to include . . . → Read More: Semi-Public Humiliation


 

Foot Worship For a Footsore Mistress

As you all know (what, you don’t follow me on Twitter?!) I sprained my ankle towards the end of July 2016, so my poor feet have been achey and in need of some foot worship for a while now!

I need a foot slave with a light touch, someone who’s willing to really take . . . → Read More: Foot Worship For a Footsore Mistress


 

Chastity Slave Tease with Mistress Christine

 

A Chastity Slave Needs Out Now And Then

Would you like to play a teasing game?

Some of you wannabe chastity slaves think chastity means being locked up all the time. Nothing could be further from the truth. What fun would a MILF Cocktease like me have if I kept . . . → Read More: Chastity Slave Tease with Mistress Christine